I'd like around my age...are men hoping for much younger?


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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #21  March 23,2009, 3:59pm

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I don't think eharmony set my age range at a default that was older than me. I am pretty sure it was normal. maybe a couple of years younger couple of years older, from what I recall...
 
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kahappy,545591 wrote :


jayjay, the answer is, yes, I am. I wasn't meeting people, so I joined eHarmony in hopes that it would connect me faster with men in my area who were also single and hoping to meet someone.


It isn't for a lack of friends, social life, or the like. I don't really know what the problem is. Then, I came here and wound up matched with men 15+ years my senior!


Where do you live? 'Dogpatch'? Someplace with a population of < 100 people? Not to be crude, but if you have a photo posted on your profile I just find it very hard to believe you aren't getting a lot of 'hits'.
 
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I think some of my fellow aging 40's peers will agree - the dichotomy that exists with the age barrier is that there isa pattern, an exponential one, to women as they near and pass 40. The definition of long term relationshp grow much shorter as the age goes up. So men in my bracket have no choice but to open up the range to much younger women if we want to find someone who wants to stick around more than a few months. There are exceptions....but for the most part this is the situation we face
 
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vlnman,545644 wrote :

I think some of my fellow aging 40's peers will agree - the dichotomy that exists with the age barrier is that there isa pattern, an exponential one, to women as they near and pass 40. The definition of long term relationshp grow much shorter as the age goes up. So men in my bracket have no choice but to open up the range to much younger women if we want to find someone who wants to stick around more than a few months. There are exceptions....but for the most part this is the situation we face
Do you mean the women you meet who are over 40 aren't interested in a permanent LTR, but just a relationship of a few months?
 
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cp30,545628 wrote :

I don't think eharmony set my age range at a default that was older than me. I am pretty sure it was normal. maybe a couple of years younger couple of years older, from what I recall...
Yeah; I was just looking at this on my account. For women (at least those my age), they recommend 5 years younger, and up to 18 years older. Pretty soon, they will be recommending men who are deadfor my upper age limit...lol (I have seta much lower upper age limit for my account...)
 
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neardc,545656 wrote :

Yeah; I was just looking at this on my account. For women (at least those my age), they recommend 5 years younger, and up to 18 years older. Pretty soon, they will be recommending men who are deadfor my upper age limit...lol (I have seta much lower upper age limit for my account...)

Yeah, come on. 'Dead' it the 'new 50'. lol
 
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cp30,545628 wrote :

I don't think eharmony set my age range at a default that was older than me. I am pretty sure it was normal. maybe a couple of years younger couple of years older, from what I recall...
Unless things have changed, eHarmony has an algorithm which suggests ages, and it does give more downrange range for men and upward range for women. As a 30 year old man, I may have been given a suggestion of 24 to 32 (don’t quote me – I can’t remember.)
 
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kahappy,545591 wrote :

jayjay, the answer is, yes, I am. I wasn't meeting people, so I joined eHarmony in hopes that it would connect me faster with men in my area who were also single and hoping to meet someone.


It isn't for a lack of friends, social life, or the like. I don't really know what the problem is. Then, I came here and wound up matched with men 15+ years my senior!
You can set your age range then flag it as "Very Important" under your settings.Some guys you're age are still looking for younger women because they may want to have children or have more in addition to what they already have. Are you willing to date a guy that already has kids?


If you're looking for someone really closeto you'reagethat doesn't have kids and doesn't want them, that's just going to take time.You may want to increase your search radius on Eharmony.
 
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cp30,545628 wrote :

I don't think eharmony set my age range at a default that was older than me. I am pretty sure it was normal. maybe a couple of years younger couple of years older, from what I recall...
That's interesting, are you sure? The recommended for me is like a 10 year range I think,


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neardc,545656 wrote :

I was just looking at this on my account. For women (at least those my age), they recommend 5 years younger, and up to 18 years older. Pretty soon, they will be recommending men who are deadfor my upper age limit...lol (I have seta much lower upper age limit for my account...)

What I wonder about, is, is that due to actual data that this maximizes relationship success, or simply accumulated customer preference?


The flip side, is, in my experience, women favor older partners.
 
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