I'd like around my age...are men hoping for much younger?


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Squire is offline Squire Post #11  March 23,2009, 1:20pm
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Dear kahappy,


While you can set your preferred age parameters however you like, EH will only match you with men whose parameters fit your age, as well.


If you're looking for younger men, online dating presents a quandary, as age parameters are included in most. For that reason, you might have better luck out in public, where age isn't such an "up front" part of the process.


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Squire, I'm not looking for younger men, per say. I'd just like to meet someone near my own age, but the matches I get sent are quite a bit older for the most part.
 
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GDBroker,545315 wrote :

I'm 37 and the three most promising matches I've reached OC with were 38, 39 and 40, so I guess that answers your question...there are some of us men out there looking in our own age range. Now as for why it seems all the dynamic women on this board never seem to live in my area is another question for another thread.


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That's the other side of the coin. A man at your age who would be happy to have a woman of your own age (KAHappy's age) is going to be IN DEMAND. Good for you.


Regarding 'having babies' and a woman's age...keep in mind that there would probably be a few years between meeting and actually having a baby.
 
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Regarding 'having babies' and a woman's age...keep in mind that there would probably be a few years between meeting and actually having a baby.





Certainly.


So I guess my problem is that the majority of the men in my geographical region and close to my age are probably family-minded, and thus hoping for someone with more childbearing years. It makes sense.
 
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kahappy,545549 wrote :

Regarding 'having babies' and a woman's age...keep in mind that there would probably be a few years between meeting and actually having a baby.





Certainly.


So I guess my problem is that the majority of the men in my geographical region and close to my age are probably family-minded, and thus hoping for someone with more childbearing years. It makes sense.
yeah....but don't give up. I've read about a lot of men who have kids of their own who actually prefer to date women who are not looking to have children or have more children. There are men too that don't want kids at all.


I'm dating someone my own age....granted we are a little bit younger but he is only 31 and was looking up to 40. I think he was annoyed with younger women that don't know what they want yet.


I've found a lot of younger men that are willing to go older....it seems the older generation that is a bit more..."ageist" younger is not always better...there are examples of that everywhere.
 
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I try to find older women. All the girls I seem to meet around my age tend to very superficial and immature. Reality TV has been the downfall of people my age.
 
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Answeringthis is an interesting 'academic' exercise, but be honest kahappy. I doubt you're really having too much trouble getting dates are you? Even with guys close to your own age?
 
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jayjay, the answer is, yes, I am. I wasn't meeting people, so I joined eHarmony in hopes that it would connect me faster with men in my area who were also single and hoping to meet someone.


It isn't for a lack of friends, social life, or the like. I don't really know what the problem is. Then, I came here and wound up matched with men 15+ years my senior!
 
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PY,545306 wrote :

This is pure ignorance, but I thought women can safely deliver babies well into her 40s?

This is statistically improbable, which is the issue for her partner.


As I understand it, fertility is already reduced at 30 and substantially reduced by 40. Cubic dollars can affect the likelihood somewhat, but nothing is certain.


Moreover, many men will expect to still have a due-diligence period with his partner, then an engagement and possibly some time after marriage to experience life unencumbered by children. As such, wanting a biological family makes a 40 year old woman an unwise choice.
 
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I think there are a few issues happening:


Children, as JayJay suggested.


eHarmony recommends men to select a younger range and women older, so that unless they change the defaults, that is what they’ll get.


Men do seek younger partners. Not all of them, to be sure, but it’s common.


As always, it is important to put effort into your profile and photos to maximize your desirability, and to consider that it is geared toward the audience you seek.
 
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