Don't Underestimate the Nice Guy

Don't Underestimate the Nice Guy

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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #101  March 26,2010, 12:46pm

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Yeah, a woman I was dating on EH tells me she likes "nice guys" on our 5-6th date while we were cuddling and kissing on the couch. Told me, I really made her laugh, put her in a good mood and that I was one of the nicest guys she ever met. Puts me in the "friend" zone when she comes back from a week long vacation. So I am going to play harder to get and be a slight jerk next time around, you betcha! Sorry!


Maybe that long vacation was more of a singles' cruise. Although she said you were the nicest guy she ever met...(at that time), she might've found somebody nicer.
 
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Maybe that long vacation was more of a singles' cruise. Although she said you were the nicest guy she ever met...(at that time), she might've found somebody nicer.
I doubt it. She met some more exciting guys that made her heart flutter and decided that's what she really wanted.

In general: Nice guy = friend, brother qualities
Exciting, confident guy = keeper, lover, boyfriend, etc.
Jerk, bad boy = fling, one night stand, college age fun

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Drexel09 wrote :
Yeah, a woman I was dating on EH tells me she likes "nice guys" on our 5-6th date while we were cuddling and kissing on the couch. Told me, I really made her laugh, put her in a good mood and that I was one of the nicest guys she ever met. Puts me in the "friend" zone when she comes back from a week long vacation. So I am going to play harder to get and be a slight jerk next time around, you betcha! Sorry!
Do you really want to be a jerk? That would be pretty unpleasant to me. I say....just find a different class of women. While this kind of woman is common in the U.S. there are women who aren't like this. My own experience has been that women from other countries are much less likely to have such emotional quirks...so that's always an option.
 
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I doubt it. She met some more exciting guys that made her heart flutter and decided that's what she really wanted.

In general: Nice guy = friend, brother qualities
Exciting, confident guy = keeper, lover, boyfriend, etc.
Jerk, bad boy = fling, one night stand, college age fun

Robert
Yes. Also possible.
 
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robv_la wrote :
I doubt it. She met some more exciting guys that made her heart flutter and decided that's what she really wanted.

In general: Nice guy = friend, brother qualities
Exciting, confident guy = keeper, lover, boyfriend, etc.
Jerk, bad boy = fling, one night stand, college age fun

Robert
Well, I have met some very nice (as in kind and caring) men in my life that had made my heart flutter. These things are not mutually exclusive.

I have met exciting, confident men I didn't care for.

In all cases, attraction was the important element -- "chemistry" that eludes definition (I know you love to talk about chemistry, PY -- thought I'd bring that up for you ).
 
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Well, I have met some very nice (as in kind and caring) men in my life that had made my heart flutter. These things are not mutually exclusive.

I have met exciting, confident men I didn't care for.

In all cases, attraction was the important element -- "chemistry" that eludes definition (I know you love to talk about chemistry, PY -- thought I'd bring that up for you ).
I'm so touched! You definitely know me and my favorite word!! *insert cry emoticon here*
 
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robv_la wrote :
I doubt it. She met some more exciting guys that made her heart flutter and decided that's what she really wanted.

In general: Nice guy = friend, brother qualities
Exciting, confident guy = keeper, lover, boyfriend, etc.
Jerk, bad boy = fling, one night stand, college age fun

Robert
Believe me Bob, no lack of confidence here. Just figured if you're going to get friended, it would have been sooner; like date 2-3 not after a month. Oh well.
 
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I have dated several girls lately that tell our mutual friends, they don't know how to deal with me, I am just to nice a guy.  So nice guys can finish last.  I have lost two girls in a row, because they did not know how to respond to someone who treated them with respect, and treated them like queens.  For the women that keep picking the bad boys, good luck, I hope you can turn one of them around.
 
 
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I am fairly new here so I have missed out on all the 'nice guy' threads. Here is my 2 cents.

Guys need to realized that they cannot jump down so far into a shell being nice, that they take their personality with them. Women look for that personality, so you have to not worry too much about pissing someone off and just be you. Take a little risk sometimes and have some fun. At least some spark is necessary for almost everyone, make sure you don't cover it up.

And girls need to realize that they might often have a lot to gain by looking under the shell a little. Many nice guys can create plenty of spark once they are warmed up a little.
 
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lslary wrote :
I have dated several girls lately that tell our mutual friends, they don't know how to deal with me, I am just to nice a guy.  So nice guys can finish last.  I have lost two girls in a row, because they did not know how to respond to someone who treated them with respect, and treated them like queens.  For the women that keep picking the bad boys, good luck, I hope you can turn one of them around.
 
Holy thread bump batman. As a nice guy, you must show you have something else to offer than being nice. Something interesting, exciting, different and fun. Welcome to EHA
 
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