Ladies please help me understand flirting.

Merlin,


You are responsible for pulling off this trick, also, and not knowing about sleight-of-eye could be your downfall. Typically when interested in a person we glance at their eyes more aggressively, Might I suggest you never look away, don't even blink, flirters are not intimadated by this and actually enjoy knowing that their mojo is working. Uncomfortableness is a sign of not flirting, o.k. blink now. (is that a pimple?)


I submitted this comment in another thread but I think it's important for the guy to know his part (he can play also, with a minimal investment) so,


Level one flirting:





you make the first move as a transcendental function. Look your best, look at her, smile a lot, don't look away when she stares you down, smile again. If you are looking maniacal, fake, stiff or phony be aware that you might get arrested or beat-up and if she is not a polynomial, she might not compute your intention, be prepared to look somewhere else but if she smiles back you can at least think to yourself "I looked at you first'. Don't wait for her to buy you a drink.

At some point, I patted her on the knee and I thought to myself, "What are you doing?... No touching... It'll freak her out!". Several minutes later, without thinking about it, I was touching her again, this time playing with her hair.

Great advice! I have a couple of questions. I met a man I found very attractive in every way in a cooking class. He knew I was flirting with him and he nicely wove a comment into our conversation about him being old. He thought I was too young for him until someone told him I was near his age. Then he began coming around during class, just standing near me, looking at me, and quietly gazing into my eyes without looking away. What was different was that his pupils were dilated, and they would dilate whenever I looked at him. It happened for several days in a row. Does this mean he was attracted to me, or that he's scared of me? Nobody else's pupils were dilated.


Oh, and I'd find myself gazing back into his beautiful, intelligent eyes and time would stop, then I'd suddenly wonder how much time had passed and if I was making a goofy fool of myself, and then I'd look away. Was this the wrong thing to do?

Hi Travelin' Man,


Your level I flirting was great. Could you include more about this? And maybe more advanced levels for those of us who are eager to learn?


Thanks

The next step is two way flirting here's what you can do:





-Flirting back-


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Flirting Techniques That You Must Know


1. Smiling. You must smile. You probably think you smile now, but you don't, really. You should practice your smile in the mirror--to be big enough to be noticed, your smile will probably have to be bigger than you are used to.
2. Getting caught looking. Most people look away when the object of their desire looks at them. If you want to let that person know you are interested, when s/he catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact a moment longer, then look away.
3. Waving. A little wave to someone who caught you looking, along with a smile, is a non-intrusive, very flirty way to say "hello."
4. Winking. You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of.
5. Asking "what's the story behind that?" You can ask "what's the story behind that?" about any special or unusual thing your quarry is wearing or carrying. Examples: "that's really neat bracelet you are wearing. What's the story behind that?" or "That's a really great briefcase. What's the story behind that?" Even if there isn't much of one, it's given you some conversation.
6. Holding eye contact. While you are conversing with him/her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once it's a good idea to hold the eye contact a little "too long," just a fraction too long, so there's a brief, more intimate moment between you.
7. Non-intrusive touching. This can be as simple as placing your hand lightly on his/her hand for a moment, or touching her back for a moment as you walk to a table to sit down. Just do this a couple of times on the first flirting interaction--if she/he pulls away, don't do it again.
8. Checking her/him out. Checking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for your new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her/his body, not objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her/his body, then back to looking in the eyes. It should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just don't do it too often.
9. Using the "Good-bye compliment." If you are shy, flirting with the "good-bye compliment" may be just the thing you need. On your way out, you simply go up to the woman you want to flirt with, and say something like, "Hi, I have to go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you know that you have a really great sense of style, and that I noticed it. I wish I had more time to spend with you, but I have to go." Then leave. This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women/men, without having to take the risk of rejection--after all, you have to leave, you couldn't stay even if they wanted you to! (Some also ask for phone numbers at this point.)
10. Stopping while it's still fun. Remember, flirting should be fun, and you should leave the flirting interaction feeling victorious. Most leave their flirting interactions feeling like failures because they don't stop until it stops being fun. If you stop flirting on a high point, while it's still fun, your new friend will feel good when thinking of you, and want to see you again.