You should always do some basic checking on someone new you are dating....


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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #1  March 9,2009, 5:28pm
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My girlfriend at work was introduced to a guy through a friend. He seemed nice enough and they have been in 2 group settings together and he has been calling her for a few weeks. He wanted to go ahead and go out with her by herself this next weekend.


He finally discloses to her that he does not have a license for another few months due to a DUI from a few years ago and told her he wanted to be "upfront and honest" about it with her.


She tells me this morning that she is torn. She asks my advice. I tell her to let me do a quick search and read more about the offense.


Within 5 minutes online I find out:


1) He is a registered sex offender whose offense was against a 5 year old child. He is on 10 years probation and has broken his probation twice (not sure how)


2) He has 2 other misdemeanor arrests in the last 3 years


3) Oh yea... he does have a DUI which caused a major accident in which luckily nobody was seriously hurt.








But he just wanted to be "upfront and honest" with her.





I'm sorry, but situations like this remind me why it is better to be safe than sorry. Her friend that introduced them was shocked as were all of us.


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Oh, that just creeps me out. But I guess these days.....you just never know. I agree, better safe than sorry. Nice of you to be looking out for your friend!
 
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If there's no name confusion, that's scary.


Your friend is "lucky" that this person has records.


There are people guilty of other "offenses" that are emotionally, physically or otherwise damaging -- and still has a clean record, and look great in person and on paper.
 
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Why Dating is Like Being a Hobbit, by Bilbao Bagggins:[/i]


“It’s a dangerous business, my friends, going out your door; you never know who you’re going to meet. You step out into the night, and if you don’t keep your wits, there is no knowing who you might be swept off by.”
 
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janissary,522760 wrote :

If there's no name confusion, that's scary.


Your friend is "lucky" that this person has records.

I live in Florida where all our court and official records are accessed online. His birthdate is clear on the documents and of course his photo is on the sex offender registry. He had just moved so the photo was taken and resubmitted for the registry just 2 months ago!





I hate to be so suspicious of people, but my friend is so trusting and after crying in the bathroom for 30 minutes she let me show her how to do a quick search and what to look for.
 
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OMG! My mouth dropped open at that one!


Makes me wonder now about about some of you...
 
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Tinderbox,522772 wrote :

OMG! My mouth dropped open at that one!


Makes me wonder now about about some of you...
Which ones of us?
 
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Wow, that's a wake up call, Fruita. While this kind of situation is rare, it does happen and a reminder why it is ok to check up.
 
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Tinderbox,522772 wrote :

OMG! My mouth dropped open at that one!


Makes me wonder now about about some of you...
Yo, Homes....





Would y'all like us to buy you a mirror for Christmas








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yeoww is offline yeoww Post #10  March 9,2009, 6:07pm
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Yep. Net detective dot com is a wonderful tool, as I found out during my first month of on-line dating - I call it my "Elderly Felon" experience. *sigh* And you don't need much info to find out a whole bunch.
 
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