premature "terms of endearment" - don't call me "baby" on the first day we meet!


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r10renault is offline r10renault Post #41  March 10,2009, 1:07pm
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On the other hand, a girl called me cutie on our first date, I went through the roof, I loved it, I thought this girl really has it out for me, she sees me as the 'guy', I am flattered thinking about it.


I have learned that you usually don't have to grab someone by the ear and drag them to the curb when they do something you don't like. When you ask the girl who's socks don't match why her socks don't match you might get a very intertesting answer. Add three parts attitude and pull her aside and say, what's up with that and you might get some underground apology.





Maybe some girl called this guy baby and he went through the roof and it meant so much to him he couldn't wait to throw it at you because you were that great.
 
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graceventually,523647 wrote :

I agree with martha, above (esp. about the guy's memory - lol!) Personally, I melt when my fiance calls me "babe", but if he had done it on the first date, there probably wouldn't have been a second.
Haha yeah exactly... the names are cute later on to show closeness... but you're not THAT close from the first day
 
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marthak,523619 wrote :




It depends not only on whether he was teasing or not, but also:
[*]How many gold chains he was wearing over visible chest hair[/list]
LOL OK now that is something that might offend me! Ugh! I hate that!
 
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r10renault,523921 wrote :

On the other hand, a girl called me cutie on our first date, I went through the roof, I loved it, I thought this girl really has it out for me, she sees me as the 'guy', I am flattered thinking about it.


I have learned that you usually don't have to grab someone by the ear and drag them to the curb when they do something you don't like. When you ask the girl who's socks don't match why her socks don't match you might get a very intertesting answer. Add three parts attitude and pull her aside and say, what's up with that and you might get some underground apology.





Maybe some girl called this guy baby and he went through the roof and it meant so much to him he couldn't wait to throw it at you because you were that great.




Women can get away with it. One of my aunts was famous for calling everyone, male and female,"Sugar." Women didn't think anything about it, but men would always melt, especially when she combined it with a stroke of his arm. I need to practice that.
 
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Tinderbox,523848 wrote :

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Reminds me of a match on another site from a while back...


Not the exact same situation, but also had the strange feeling of too familiar too fast/getting a line used on me.


Within the first few emails (the second maybe? after the initial, "hi my name is..") , I got one that related something along the lines of:


"It's me again, well lets continue

-what is craziest thing that u would like to do now?
-do u belive in love?
-what would u do if some1 came to u, hold ur hands and said " i didn't belive in angels till i met u"?"





The last question killed me... I emailed back right away with my answer... :P


uggghh the text message abbreviations in emails is a borderline deal breaker for me; sorry "you" is not that long of a word to need an abbreviation.


I agree. Writing like that would trigger an instant closure, especially if that's their idea of trying to make an early good impression on you. Sloppy and ill mannered.
I also agree. It's a complete turn-off.
 
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r10renault,523921 wrote :


1)On the other hand, a girl called me cutie on our first date, I went through the roof, I loved it, I thought this girl really has it out for me, she sees me as the 'guy', I am flattered thinking about it.


2)Maybe some girl called this guy baby and he went through the roof and it meant so much to him he couldn't wait to throw it at you because you were that great.








1) (translation)I've had so many 1st dates lately, so um, what was your name again 'cutie?"


2) doubt it, but nice try
 
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marthak,523619 wrote :

It depends not only on whether he was teasing or not, but also:
[*]How many gold chains he was wearing over visible chest hair[*]How much older he is than you[*]How close his mob connections are[*]How bad his memory is - "babe" may be his only safe option if he's playing the field[/list]
That's great!!
 
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glassonlyhalffull_fillit,525028 wrote :

r10renault,523921 wrote :


1)On the other hand, a girl called me cutie on our first date, I went through the roof, I loved it, I thought this girl really has it out for me, she sees me as the 'guy', I am flattered thinking about it.


2) Maybe some girl called this guy baby and he went through the roof and it meant so much to him he couldn't wait to throw it at you because you were that great.








1) (translation)I've had so many 1st dates lately, so um, what was your name again 'cutie?"


2) doubt it, but nice try

you can call me Buzz, Petunia Blossum
 
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r10renault,525445 wrote :

glassonlyhalffull_fillit,525028 wrote :


r10renault,523921 wrote :


1)On the other hand, a girl called me cutie on our first date, I went through the roof, I loved it, I thought this girl really has it out for me, she sees me as the 'guy', I am flattered thinking about it.


2) Maybe some girl called this guy baby and he went through the roof and it meant so much to him he couldn't wait to throw it at you because you were that great.








1) (translation)I've had so many 1st dates lately, so um, what was your name again 'cutie?"


2) doubt it, but nice try





you can call me Buzz, Petunia Blossum
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Cutie is fine, I think the thing that bothered me most was the assumption that I felt like he was implying with "baby", within a couple of hours after meeting me. It seemed like too much too soon.


He called me last night and we actually talked about it and he apologized and said he was trying to show me how much he liked me, that he did not mean anything presumptious by it. He said that he was not annoyed that I said somehting about it, he was annoyed at himeself for upsetting me. Which I thought was nice.


We're going out this weekend, we will see how it goes.


Hahaha, no gold chains and no visible chest hair but he was wearing a high neck tshirt so who knows.
 
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