premature "terms of endearment" - don't call me "baby" on the first day we meet!


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luvablefrog is offline luvablefrog Post #21  March 9,2009, 6:46pm
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well, I'm not sure I'd have been bothered. I grew up in the south, and have a tendency to say "hon"way to much myself. I don't mean anything by it, half the time I don't even realize it. it's the same thing with saying yes ma'am or no, sir. I also hug my friends when I see them. If some yankee gets all uptight and bothered by it, too bad!


BTW- i also say ya'll alot too...
 
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Tinderbox,522784 wrote :

Lack of manners.
Rooted in hereditary classism, why not?
 
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yeoww is offline yeoww Post #23  March 9,2009, 7:13pm
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I wouldn't like it either; too familiar too fast. I probably wouldn't write the guy off right away if that was the only sticking point, though. He might have just been really nervous. If he kept it up through a second date though and it still really bothered me, I'd say something.
 
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HopefullLeigh, wrote :


I met a really nice guy over the weekend, we had great conversation, laughed, etc. He asked me out, I said yes, we discussed plans. Later that afternoon (we are at a barbeque), he called me "babe" and "baby" a couple of times. I found it really offputting!!!!!!!!! Finally when I couldn't take it anymore I pulled him aside and told him it made me uncomfortable and he apologized and stopped but seemed a little annoyed.


Now I'm not sure if I even want to go out with him.


My friend said I was being uptight, but I don't know....it just seemed overly familiar, or presumptious, or disrespectful.


Am I overreacting?


What would make a guy think he could get that familiar so fast?!


I've had an guy do this (call me 'babe') before we met, or even spoke by phone. He lived 6 hours away. He referred to me that way in a text message after we'd regularly emailed and exchanged texts for a few weeks. I didn't really mind, although I wasn't expecting that.


There's a great episode of The Office where Steve Carell hosts a dinner party with his live-in gf, and they get in an argument. At first they tried to be polite about it, but they kept addressing each other as babe, and the argument escalated from there. But Babe this, and no Babe that. Funny!


To the OP, just tell him if you're uncomfortable with it. Unless he's a jerk, he'll get it.
 
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HopefullLeigh, wrote :

I met a really nice guy over the weekend, we had great conversation, laughed, etc. He asked me out, I said yes, we discussed plans. Later that afternoon (we are at a barbeque), he called me "babe" and "baby" a couple of times. I found it really offputting!!!!!!!!! Finally when I couldn't take it anymore I pulled him aside and told him it made me uncomfortable and he apologized and stopped but seemed a little annoyed.


Now I'm not sure if I even want to go out with him.


My friend said I was being uptight, but I don't know....it just seemed overly familiar, or presumptious, or disrespectful.


Am I overreacting?


What would make a guy think he could get that familiar so fast?!
I am totally with you!! Nothing chaps my backside more than the use of the word "baby" or "babe" when speaking to me. I hate that particular endearment more than any other.


Sometimes when men use it, it seems they are simply using it because they forgot your name. Others who use it are just players. Others....well who knows. I just know I couldn't date them!
 
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inn is offline inn Post #26  March 9,2009, 8:34pm
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Ah ha! he forgot your name perhaps?


Can't stand"babe, hon, sugar plum, sweet muffin".It's too.... too ... too .... sugar coated! yeck!


I had one guy that would alwayscomplimentme that "I'm suchanAngel". I clearly had toremind him to look a little closer to see my horns ... lol!!
 
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I don't care for it until after there's been romantic physical contact.


Hey rninerie, long time no see.
 
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Reminds me of a match on another site from a while back...


Not the exact same situation, but also had the strange feeling of too familiar too fast/getting a line used on me.


Within the first few emails (the second maybe? after the initial, "hi my name is..") , I got one that related something along the lines of:


"It's me again, well lets continue

-what is craziest thing that u would like to do now?
-do u belive in love?
-what would u do if some1 came to u, hold ur hands and said " i didn't belive in angels till i met u"?"





The last question killed me... I emailed back right away with my answer... :P
 
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(I don't remember this exactly, but...)


An elderly couple had been married for 50 years. Even after all that time, the husband still called his wife "my love", "my darling", and "my dear". When asked the secret to their success and how he can still be referring to his wife so lovingly after all these years,his reply was, "I forgot her name 10 years ago".
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #30  March 10,2009, 4:52am
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