Music, does it matter if you and your Match align in this area?


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inn is offline inn Post #1  March 1,2009, 6:32pm
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How important is it if you and your Match like the same type of music?My ex and I were so mis-aligned in this area. When he liked jazz, I liked punk. When I went Techno, he went classical. It reached apoint were we didn't listen to musicin the car anymore. It got worse when I wore my headphones at night while he ended up reading.


I'm wondering if I should be picky about this, this time around. I'm pretty flexible about music, but there are some types that you couldn't even pay me to listen to.


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LOL, I could have been your ex... Classical and jazz are the best... can't stand punk, techno, new age, or metal.


Would drive me absolutely insane.
 
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hey, RobInPlano, uhmm my ex was Scorpio too. OK ... any gemini's out there?
 
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I guess the degree of incompatibility would matter.


Some common ground is probably important, but some differences are fine too. It also depends on how important music is to you. If you listen to music constantly, you would need more overlap. If its something that doesn't matter much to you, differences in taste might be less important.


Ultimately, only YOU can decide how important compatible music tastes are to YOU.
 
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It would depend more on how open the people are to music, how "into" their music they are, and how different their tastes.


Just an aside inn, seems that maybe with your ex it was not as much musical tastes as a drifting apart. It would appear that you were very into your music by your statement "I wore my headphones at night" while your ex was into reading. Through each of your actions you shut the door on a very fundamental part of a successful relationship, communication. Of course with this ever so slight bit of opinion is my standard disclaimer that I don't know anything about anything.
 
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I agree peg, consider trying to date somebody who wanted the music constant and loud, or somebody who rarely listened to music at all, then throw in the types....
 
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I think it depends on how open you are like I like most music but when I hate a song...it's just skin crawling for me to listen to it.


If I was around someone that could only listen to their music and no one else's choices...that would be a little selfish in my book. I'm all about sharing the radio and compromising on the differences.


So basically I think there does need to be some middle ground that you both enjoy...
 
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bravethestorm,511607 wrote :

I think it depends on how open you are like I like most music but when I hate a song...it's just skin crawling for me to listen to it.


If I was around someone that could only listen to their music and no one else's choices...that would be a little selfish in my book. I'm all about sharing the radio and compromising on the differences.


So basically I think there does need to be some middle ground that you both enjoy...
I agree you have to find the common ground to music. If one likes 60' and the other likes 80's you just have to compormise. On one trip the 60's the next gets 80's music. But one type I won't compromise on is Rap. It' sounds too similar to a cat's claws scratching on chalk board for my taste, yuck.
 
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