The 4 Most Common Dating Mistakes Women Make

The 4 Most Common Dating Mistakes Women Make

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Blunders happen -- that's life. But some women make mistakes by not thinking ahead and not being aware of what they're doing at the moment. Here are some of the most common ones...
 
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These are common but i would have to say, The 4 most common ive noticed are:





1.Not asking question not being really interested in the guy there on a date with instead they talk about themselves and goofy friends. Its insanely good to ask questions then shut up and really listen! its amazing how much a guy will like you if you simply become interested in him and become a good listner! kinda like the book " how to win friends and influence people" a timeless classic!


2.talking about the wrong things like slutty friends, etc.. hmm "birds of a feather flock together" huge red flag there! The book "GetRomeoNow" discusses this in great detail!


3.Having no thoughts or not expressing any thoughts of the the future.. everything you do or say is aimed at now/today not having any hopes dreams etc.. also deeply discussed in "GetRomeoNow"


4. Being insecure/not confident! having the fake wall up.. too long is a huge mistake and a big turnoff and shows massive insecurity!! show him your true self and if he dosent like it youve saved your self tons of time! and in doing so your showing that your very confident in yourself! a Huge Turnon for mature men that are ready for a relationship!! Great book on the subject "Feel the fear and do it anyway" Or "get romeo Now"


5. Also being premiscuis to early is a huge red flag.. just dont do it.. if he dosent stick around youve eliminated a guy after the wrong thing great job!! also deeply talked about in "GetRomeonow"
 
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I don't think these "mistakes" are gender specific.
 
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Fancypantz,508349 wrote :


I don't think these "mistakes" are gender specific.


I know, right? The men I've dated committed every one of these faux pas, and I was just as freaked out as any man would have been. I wish EHarmony wouldn't alwaysplace the responsibilityof a relationship's success so squarely on the woman's shoulders.
 
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Fancypantz,508349 wrote :

I don't think these "mistakes" are gender specific.
Agreed.


Being male I have met women who have viewed dating as a contest and themseleves as the prize to be won.
 
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It is not just about the particular mistakes we make. Sometimes one particular mistake is just the last straw.


The situations that make up a relationship are important. If everything else is good it is easier to overlook some things that are not.
 
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gr8guy,508360 wrote :

Being male I have met women who have viewed dating as a contest and themseleves as the prize to be won.
Is not a prize supposed to have value? Would be my answer to that.
 
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They're not gender specific but I do think a case could be made that women are more often guilty of #3 and #4....in all honesty.
 
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gr8guy,508360 wrote :


Fancypantz,508349 wrote :


I don't think these "mistakes" are gender specific.


Agreed.


Being male I have met women who have viewed dating as a contest and themseleves as the prize to be won.


Hey, you weren't supposed to tell anyone! Once the other guys know the game is afoot, that'll give you more competition for the prize!!
 
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Fancypantz,508349 wrote :


I don't think these "mistakes" are gender specific.


I would agree for all except #4. In a relationship where the man spends the bulk load of the dating cash, that is a pretty one-sided issue.


Some women never say "thank you for dinner". Or thank a guy for anything.


Friedrice said "it's my duty to look good, his duty to pay for dinner". So it makes you wonder if women actually think this way think that "just looking good" is the payback for a full course meal, drinks and maybe a movie.


Just a heads up, a guy typically buys dinner because it's his "role". You being dressed up or looking good is pretty insignificant especially if he gets no sex oout of it. You dress up for YOU, not him. And he doesn't care anyway, he just wants your company.
 
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