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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #321  June 25,2010, 4:30pm

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trixie1868 wrote :
Are you calling me self absorbed / stupid? It very much reads like you are.

Can you explain your comment about 'changing a man'; it doesn't resonate with anything that I posted.
Absolutely not, and I would hope that you would forgive me for the shameful display of my habitual (aka subliminal) mind's absolute disgust and lack of pity for people such as Sandra Bullock who idolize self declared anti-establishment* , playboy types AND think that that person will "behave" just for them.

I have as much pity for Sandra or people like her and what they get as I would for a person who just slapped (figuratively) me merely for being who I am. Change RARELY (yes, people can, but it is very very very very very very rare) happens. Expecting it will happen for "you" (generalized, no person in particular) is stupid (in my humble opinion).

*not that anyone should ever do ANYTHING just to "belong", to do something to be "different" (like mutilating your body would be "new") exhibits the lack of ability to think on one's own
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trixie1868 wrote :
Are you calling me self absorbed / stupid? It very much reads like you are.

Can you explain your comment about 'changing a man'; it doesn't resonate with anything that I posted.
A wounded dog snaps blindly at anything in the vicinity
As I hope that I would have greater control than a dog, my response was completely inexcusable, unacceptable and undeserved
I would hope that you would have it in your heart to forgive me
 
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Leo77 is offline Leo77 Post #324  June 25,2010, 8:36pm
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Same rule applies to women too. Biasness is an ugly troll faced scratch n sniff sticker.
Besides you have to know that person in order to even call that person good or bad. To be perfectly real we all have a dualistic side....However, it just depends ifthe relationship and the one whos in it is worth the trouble.
Not to be an ass, but if a girl looks at a guy and says at face value ohh a nice or bad guy, thats pretty shallow and thats their bad.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #325  June 26,2010, 3:32am

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Ok Olneyjeeps, I understand you're going through the mill right now.

Back to the thread.

nice guys aren't necessarily 'anti-establishment', they're regular men, with regular jobs, paying regular bills, living regular lives they're just not pretending to be something that they're not in order to get into someone's pants. Nice Guys are ~ they're wolves in sheep's clothing.

There's plenty of nice guys on these boards. I'd list them if I didn't think it would mortify them, nice guys are more modest than other men despite having more to shout about.
 
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Walter649 is offline Walter649 Post #326  June 27,2011, 3:59am
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I am NOT manipulative and dishonest. The rest of it has been said of me.
 
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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #327  July 7,2011, 4:02pm

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I agree with your overall concept in that a lot of "nice guys" only tell a woman what she wants to hear in order to get what he wants. Unfortunately for the "nice guys," women can be more manipulative than men, and they see through this game.
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zal wrote :
After reading (and participating) in other "nice guy" threads. I decided to start my own. Women say they want nice guys. They ask "Where are all the nice guys?" Meanwhile, the so-called "nice guys" complain that women only want to be their friends. They complain about women saying that they want nice guys, but then date "jerks". So, what gives? My premise is that so-called "nice guys" are NOT "nice". They are not nice because they have the following bad traits:


1. They are manipulative.


2. They are fundamentally dishonest.


3. They are weak.


4. They are smothering.


5. They are boring.


6. They are lifeless.


Any comments?
I wonder what "nice guys" you are thinking of. I am a "nice guy," but I am neither of those things (well, I can be a bit boring than in my younger days). The idea that the "bad guys" are strong is due to a misconception of what strength really is.
 
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