Ladies, are you encountering guys looking for you to be their savior?


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flowerchild66 is offline flowerchild66 Post #1  February 27,2009, 1:59am
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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #2  February 27,2009, 2:40am
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Hmm, thinking back over the recent past I've encountered quite the opposite actually. Seems I would meet more men looking to BE the rescuer, rather than looking to be rescued.


I'm not in the position of needing to be "rescued" from anything, and it would be quite obvious that once these men realized this, they were no longer interested in me. Which is all the better for me.


I'd like to meet a man that doesn't fall into either category. They're out there
 
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Gee, I am looking for an EQUAL partner. I don't need to be rescued. And I really don't feel like I should have to be rescuing my match/date/mate.


Flowerchild, anyone your age (or mine) that needs to be rescued indicates that they really don't have a very firm grip on their life.
 
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lucky173,506998 wrote :


Hmm, thinking back over the recent past I've encountered quite the opposite actually. Seems I would meet more men looking to BE the rescuer, rather than looking to be rescued.


I'm not in the position of needing to be "rescued" from anything, and it would be quite obvious that once these men realized this, they were no longer interested in me. Which is all the better for me.


I'd like to meet a man that doesn't fall into either category. They're out there


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This is a problem that occurs on both sides of the isle. Since you seem to have more than your share, it might be a good idea to determine if there is a particular personality or character trait that you tend to be attracted to that is a common denominator among these men. Also, examine yourself to make sure that you are not giving off signals of wanting to "nurture". And another thing, could it be that you are misjudging "weakness" for "sensitivity"?
 
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I'll tell you from personal experience, that it can be an exhilarting to be the rescuer. it can easily cause endorphins to flow and make you feel really good about yourself. That can easily be mistaken for love and affection.


But, that is not a basis for a relationship. Those who make themselves out to be rescued, are setting themselves up for a failing relationship. A relationship has to be based in truth, not a gimmick which this is.
 
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Dafearon,507143 wrote :

I'll tell you from personal experience, that it can be an exhilarting to be the rescuer. it can easily cause endorphins to flow and make you feel really good about yourself. That can easily be mistaken for love and affection.


But, that is not a basis for a relationship. Those who make themselves out to be rescued, are setting themselves up for a failing relationship. A relationship has to be based in truth, not a gimmick which this is.
I can see your point, but I would doubt that most people that are a rescuer or a receiver are even conscientiously aware of their roles. A gimmick is an intentional trick. I can see where this method might be used by a con-artist that knows how to "play people", but that would not be typical.
 
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Rescued? Rescuer? Sounds like Days of Our Lives or General Hospital...one of those soapy shows.
 
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Rescued? Rescuer? Sounds like Days of Our Lives or General Hospital...one of those soapy shows.
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For a while, I thought those were the only kinds of menout theresingle . . . those looking to be rescued. I know that's not really true; it just seems that way sometimes.


I think we could all use a little help from the opposite sex in some area of our life, but if a major need is there, that's a red flag. Nobody is an island or completely self-sufficient. A healthy amount of give and takeis a good thing.
 
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