angel is offline angel Post #1  February 26,2009, 10:36am
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My friend said hewas depressed for a few daysover his job becasue he has to work with someone that he does not get along with. He is unhappy that his hours got switched too, that means we cannot see each other during the week now. I am not sure if it permanant or just this week though. He is also looking for a new job.


Should this be a cause of concern for us we just started dating? Do you think if he finds a new job we will be okay?
 
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Tough call. But I would never let something minor like that get in the way of my relationship. Tell him to suck it up & to enjoy some of his off time with you. LOL. If work is so negative thenit would be good for his off time to be as positive as possible sobring a good attitude & have fun.
 
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you could always move into together, lol.


If you ever get married, it's always a possibility you may not see each other for extended periods. In this horrible economy I know of a lot of men that work out of state from their families just to have a job.
 
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i really didn't realize how depressed I was, and how much this was affecting my child, until I quit my job. Now a welfare queen, I stroll in the breeze, fall asleep without pharmaceutical assistance and have a clean closet floor.


the guy has a problem. if he doesn't somehow resolve it, it will infect you. leaving a bad place for the uncertainty of the unknown is a leap of faith. literally. that there is hope for the future. My uncle used to say;"you were looking for a job when you got this one." (well, actually, he quit saying that about the 30th time my cousin, for whatever reason, again became unemployed.
 
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angel, wrote :

My friend said hewas depressed for a few daysover his job becasue he has to work with someone that he does not get along with. He is unhappy that his hours got switched too, that means we cannot see each other during the week now. I am not sure if it permanant or just this week though. He is also looking for a new job.


Should this be a cause of concern for us we just started dating? Do you think if he finds a new job we will be okay?

forgive me here but with the market in the state that it is, he is lucky to still have a job and should be thankful.
 
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angel is offline angel Post #6  March 5,2009, 9:01pm
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He was just having a bad week, don't we all sometimes. He is stil looking for a new job though.
 
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Angel I see that your original post was a week ago and now you have updated the situation. In your original post you indicated that you had just started dating so you are still in the getting to know each other phase. Make sure that his negative attitude to his work situation was just a temporary "bad week" and not a general negative attitude.
 
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