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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #101  February 18,2009, 4:29pm
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6dle899,493949 wrote :

A lot of females do not realize that they are ALREADY married





...and their husband is New York City.
This post appears counter-intuitive. Are not the females customarily siphoning money from their husband?


Does not NYC do the opposite?
 
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What about heading down to Austin (from Dallas) with this Vegaschick you just met, drinking margaritas and mai tais all the way, getting slobbered at the hotel pool, then dragging it down to 6th street to watch some live bands,inking virgin tatoos, and ~then~ jumping into the sack, abandoning your wing man to sleep it off in the hallway.


Is that okay for a first date?


I, um, well, we did that. I'm sooooo going to hell for that one.


Beat that one, Manhattan chick.


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zal,493956 wrote :

Red Sox Girl,493300 wrote :


I am aware of what you are trying to say in your post & agree that people should think before becoming physical in a relationship.


Ido, however, disagree with your comment about how what other women do, negatively affects you - if guys you date are 'expecting' you to do anything, it's the guy who is at fault, not the other women he has dated. I've come across guys like this too, but I just move on quickly, I know it's the guy who is the issue & I don't assume he's a fabulous guy at heartbut is just brainwashed by his previous dates.


I also don't feel that anyone (regardless of gender) should make anyone else "wait" - 2 people should choose tobegin a physical relationship when it feels mutually right for them - this shouldn't be dictated by society's expectations or the moral high ground of others.


Red Sox Girl, you are right again. I would add that while I'm a strong believer that no one should be pressured into having sex or feeling like they "have to" have sex, I've do not agree that a women who chooses to have sex is somehow "disrespecting" herself. The idea that sex is something that men "take" from women or women "give away" to men is absurd.
Zal,I agree with you.


A woman who chooses to have sex is in no way "disrespecting" herself. She would only be dishonouring herself if she went ahead and had sex because she felt pressured into it. Sexual intimacyis something a couple give to each other. Both parters have to be willing to invest the effort and emotions involved.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind,493951 wrote :

Texans, as a rule are lovely people. Perhaps he was a transplant, a faux-Texan, a pseudo-Southerner.
With friends who are not the best with firearms?
 
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saulgoode,493974 wrote :

What about heading down to Austin (from Dallas) with this Vegaschick you just met, drinking margaritas and mai tais all the way, getting slobbered at the hotel pool, then dragging it down to 6th street to watch some live bands,inking virgin tatoos, and ~then~ jumping into the sack, abandoning your wing man to sleep it off in the hallway.


Is that okay for a first date?


I, um, well, we did that. I'm sooooo going to hell for that one.


Beat that one, Manhattan chick.


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Maybe best not to consume too much alcohol on a first date.
 
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equestrian2121,493610 wrote :

Therefore women who behave in this way wind up giving a negative backlash to other women out there in the dating world who are holding off until it actually means something (imagine that!). It's a fact.
Sweetie, I hang out with many kinds of women - from those with no problem having one night stands and those who wait till marriage. I am in between. Most men who hang out with us know very well which is which because we tell them. Guess what? Some of the women waiting till marriage and I still have dates and relationships.


Please stop blaming other women. One thing I learned from some women is that if a woman has very interesting and magnetic personality, men will still want to see her more, even when sex is not promised in the near future.
 
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Aussiegirrl,493896 wrote :

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You "feel it is too soon" to go to bed with these men, and yet you do? That is terrible! You should really trust your insticts much more. If you feel it's too soon, then it is too soon!


If you want some idea about what kind of lover a man will be, then try just kissing him.I find it's a very reliable way to gauge how passionate they are.


Tried it. Kissing? It's a terribly inaccurategauge.


Yes, its always a bad idea to lose your power, but the she got a more positive result than expected. I thinka lot of moral people tend to lie to even the playing field. Like they exaggerate the color of how terrible the act is, to shame you into abiding by their unhappy life.


No, no, kissing is a really good and accurate gauge... well for me, anyway.


But I think there could be plenty of other indications as to how someone might be in bed. Let's face it, if you find a potential partner sexually attractive... his voice, the way he moves, the way he looks at you and the way he touches your face or your hands.. it's pretty much assured that you are going to eventually go to bed with him.


If you are compatable emotionally, intellectually and spiritually, as well as finding each other physically attractive, then surely the sex will be fantastic. But if, by chance, it was not so wonderful, would it really be a huge deal to you? Wouldn't you just take the time to work on it?
Hey Aussie... A few years ago we had huge forest fires here...I know exactly what you are smelling. Be careful Ok.....


So back to this thread. I must admitt....if I kiss a guy for more than 10 secondsmy clothes fall off. Always have..very strange. So as a result I don't think I am a very skilled kisser...but holy hog heaven I make up for it prettyquick in other ways later...Wink Wink
 
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D_Lion,493944 wrote :

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Er...frogs are...nice....kinda...with all that kissing and turning into Princes and such.


But, ifI kiss you...what will you turn into?


There is one way to find out …
Ahhhhh.....if only...*sigh*....
 
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D_Lion,493976 wrote :

littlebluemonkeymind,493951 wrote :


Texans, as a rule are lovely people. Perhaps he was a transplant, a faux-Texan, a pseudo-Southerner.


With friends who are not the best with firearms?
LOL...somethin' like that.
 
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constantseeker,493471 wrote :

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I do consider myself classy - maybe only compared to some, but IthinkI am reasonably so. Also, when I "sleep" with a guyI am ready, or I would keep putting him off. I don't do that to hold ontoone; like I said, I do it with the expectation that I may never see him again.


If you are into dating with the intention of meeting someone special to "spend the rest of your life with" and not just for the entertainment factor... then it seems like you are setting yourself up for failure if you don't have expectations of ever seeing him again. Would it not be better to wait till you are in some phase of commitment... like knowing that you are only dating each other with the intention of both wanting it to develop further?


This thread has certainly given me something to think about.


Am Imoving forward for the right reason? (Usually not)


Do I want to know howcompatible we are physically before I committo him? (Definitely, but we need to be compatible intellectually and emotionally as well, so I may be doing it too soon)


Do I think that if I sleep with a guy that he will commit to me?(No, I've seen this backfire on a fewof my friends)


Am I actually not classy because I enjoy sex and will participate in it on the 3rd or 4th date if I am attracted to someone and consider them a potential LTR? (Like I said, it's all relative and I may only be classy compared to some....)


My head hurts now....
There's another side to this coin. "moving forward for the right reason" You say "usually not" but in what way? If you enjoyed yourself, but the r-ship doesn't work out, what's the harm? It just means one thing: It's not meant to be.


On compatibility: You don't necessarily have to determine intellectual and emotional compatibility BEFORE physical, do you? I mean there's no law about it is there?


Will sleeping with a guy make him commit to you? Of course not. Just like you sleeping with a guy doesn't necessarily mean you want to spend the rest of your life with him.


Are you not classy? Well, I don't know you, so I'll leave that one alone, but choosing to have sex does not make you less classy or more classy than someone who chooses not to have sex. "Classy to some?" I don't agree that it's relative. You are either "classy" or "not", when, where, how, with whom (as long as with consenting adults) you have sex with is no indication whatsoever of "class".
 
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