Is just saying Hi...too desperate?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #31  February 18,2009, 5:01pm
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I agree with the other posters this is neither desperate nor clingy. If I have a match that is not interested in doing some initiating of comunication on a regular basis I take that as a sign that she is not interested in me.


I am not sure what is up with your so called pal but you need to either ignor his advice or just flat out dump him.
 
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Benevolence32,492703 wrote :

I agree, I certainly wish more women would do things like this. It's not an act of desperation at all, for a man or woman.

No but if you call at the wrong time...it can be annoying. Add that to a very big personality and you can easily become "scary". Moi, I swear off "just saying HI" since I always seem to call at the wrong times...so I usally make up an excuse and send text or e-mail...
 
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missthang,494076 wrote :

Benevolence32,492703 wrote :


I agree, I certainly wish more women would do things like this. It's not an act of desperation at all, for a man or woman.





No but if you call at the wrong time...it can be annoying. Add that to a very big personality and you can easily become "scary". Moi, I swear off "just saying HI" since I always seem to call at the wrong times...so I usally make up an excuse and send text or e-mail...
Text, e-mail, phone,either way is fine. It would be a pleasant surprise either way, and still shows that you're thoughtful.
 
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robv_la,492725 wrote :

He's done all the calling and finally you reached out to him. That is good.


Listening to dating advice from a guy "friend" who's interested in you is bad. His motivation is to keep you away from this new guy so that somehow you will end up with him. So he'll give you bad advice.


Bottom line: guys who show interest (like this new guy) like it when the object of his affection responds in kind (with calls back and messages).

100% true
 
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coltsbabe44 is offline coltsbabe44 Post #35  February 19,2009, 3:05pm
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I agree. You aren't desperate.
 
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