Is just saying Hi...too desperate?


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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #11  February 17,2009, 9:02pm

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naturegirl06825, wrote :

OK, so I haven't met this man face to face, we are meeting on friday. He's done all the calling, well, last night, I sent him an email telling him I just wanted to say and Hi and to tell him to have a good week at work and that I am looking forward to meeting him in person on friday...


Is this desperate? I have a guy friend (who I think is interested in me) that says that can be an act of desperation...this is the only time I've done this and I had spoken to the man I am going to be be meeting just on Sunday and he just really seems to be burnt out on work...I can't tell if I am being lame or if my so called pal is trying to get me to freak out because he has his own agenda with me!

That was very sweet of you and I hope he responds in kind. Good luck!
 
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D_Lion,492517 wrote :

Gotta disagree with Hogrally.


When I have an online match, if she does not put forth some effort, I assume she is not interested in me.


I think you did the right thing.
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tbesq,492600 wrote :

We guys wish women would do this more. I definitely agree that saying hi once in a while just to check up on me is cool, and in fact appreciated.
I agree, I certainly wish more women would do things like this. It's not an act of desperation at all, for a man or woman.
 
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He's done all the calling and finally you reached out to him. That is good.


Listening to dating advice from a guy "friend" who's interested in you is bad. His motivation is to keep you away from this new guy so that somehow you will end up with him. So he'll give you bad advice.


Bottom line: guys who show interest (like this new guy) like it when the object of his affection responds in kind (with calls back and messages).
 
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naturegirl06825, wrote :

OK, so I haven't met this man face to face, we are meeting on friday. He's done all the calling, well, last night, I sent him an email telling him I just wanted to say and Hi and to tell him to have a good week at work and that I am looking forward to meeting him in person on friday...


Is this desperate? I have a guy friend (who I think is interested in me) that says that can be an act of desperation...this is the only time I've done this and I had spoken to the man I am going to be be meeting just on Sunday and he just really seems to be burnt out on work...I can't tell if I am being lame or if my so called pal is trying to get me to freak out because he has his own agenda with me!

Did you feel desperate? If not, then it wasnt an act of desperation. If your 'friend' feels that it is, then maybe your friend doesnt know you. And if the gentleman you are calling on views it as an act of desperation, the I would suggest he may have some ego issues, because most secure men wont view it that way(as is apparent in this thread). So no big loss if he sees it as an act of desperation right?


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I'm with the boys above - think about it, if someone you were interested in did this to you, wouldn't you be flattered? So likewise, if he's interested in you, he'll also be pleased to hear from you "just because". Effort should be reciprocated by each gender. Anybody who views your email as an act of desperation isn't somebody you'd want to be pursuing a relationship with. Hope you have a fun 1st meeting!
 
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Agreed. Not desperate. He'll appreciate that you are being thoughtful and that you are interested.


Just don't start calling him every single day out of the blue without any reciprocal calls (or other forms of communication). Have fun on the date this week!! =)
 
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robv_la,492725 wrote :

He's done all the calling and finally you reached out to him. That is good.


Listening to dating advice from a guy "friend" who's interested in you is bad. His motivation is to keep you away from this new guy so that somehow you will end up with him. So he'll give you bad advice.


Bottom line: guys who show interest (like this new guy) like it when the object of his affection responds in kind (with calls back and messages).

Agreed...agreed...agreed. Your new guy will like it.
 
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I did this very same thing OP. The day afterthe 1st call to arrange the date, I emailed him "looking forward to meeting you" ....The day after the 1st and 2nd date, I emailed him to reiterate how much I enjoyed his company, etc. I think it's a sign of consideration & interest.
 
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P.S IMO if the above is perceived as desperation, then I would say he isn't interested in me as much
 
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