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Last month I posted about a guy I had know for over three years and the dilema I had with the new guy I had been dating, The new guy was very nice and looked as though it had great potential where as the old flame came around and said he loved me and always had, I realized after reading all the great advise here that he was probably just doing what he does best and the lust for him was all that was left. Well heres the update.


I had the "talk" with the new guy and he did not want to get serious or be exclusive, so I we agreed to just date and see what happens. That being said I had pretty much written off the the old flame and decided I did not really want to go thru him disappearing again. Over the last couple of weeks the old flame kept coming around and finally he asked me out, We spent valentines ( not as a typical love date just a get together) at a wine party I had hosted at my place and he has since asked me to dinner and things are going great. I have begun dating a couple so as not to get too attatched, but the Lust is still definetly there.


I just want to say thanks for all the great advise and the reality check.
 
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missy2u2002, wrote :

Last month I posted about a guy I had know for over three years and the dilema I had with the new guy I had been dating, The new guy was very nice and looked as though it had great potential where as the old flame came around and said he loved me and always had, I realized after reading all the great advise here that he was probably just doing what he does best and the lust for him was all that was left. Well heres the update.


I had the "talk" with the new guy and he did not want to get serious or be exclusive, so I we agreed to just date and see what happens. That being said I had pretty much written off the the old flame and decided I did not really want to go thru him disappearing again. Over the last couple of weeks the old flame kept coming around and finally he asked me out, We spent valentines ( not as a typical love date just a get together) at a wine party I had hosted at my place and he has since asked me to dinner and things are going great. I have begun dating a couple so as not to get too attatched, but the Lust is still definetly there.


I just want to say thanks for all the great advise and the reality check.
I think I was one of those who responded to your OP. I am happy to hear that you had that sit-down with the one guy. I am very sorry that it did not work out though. Keep on playing the field until you find Mr. Right but by all means do not let the one you were lusting after mess with your mind. Good Luck
 
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Kudos for the guy to be willing to talk with you though and be honest and up front!
 
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Yes, he was very honest and up front and we will continue to date and just be friends go snowmobiling I told him he couldn't introduce me to snowmobiling and then take it away. . As for the other one, he is a super great guy He is 14 years older than me. just not sure if he wants to settle down againanytime soon.
 
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