Sungillee333 is offline Sungillee333 Post #1  February 16,2009, 11:06pm
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So I've been seeing this girl for a little over a month... Things seem great at first and like anyone does it was easy to get caught up. Anyways, she comes out to me with a bunch of tough stuff about her family and past and big stresses right now, yada yada.... She eventually came around to tell me that it made her uncomfortable that she opened up to me that early. So I've done nothing but treat her with the highest degree of respect and care: been supportive, given advice, just prety much anything.


So that seems fine, but things are definitely rocky right now. She's pulled one or two just tasteless antics recently. I'm really into this girl and want to figure out whether or not it's worth my energy. It's really hard for me to figure out what I want to do, because when she's good.... I'm happier than anyone in the world. The issue is I can't nail down which is going to be the consistent her. My friends keep telling me that these actions recently show she's untrustworthy and just not worth my time. Her friends and sister tell me that she's got a lot on her plate right now and that she'll relax and stablize sometime relatively soon. They tell me that I'm "The best guy she's ever dated" and like it's wicked flattering, I just try to do the right thing for someone. (Maybe she'd never been treated this well?)


I'm just unsure of whether or not I should continue to put forth the effort into this. I really like her a lot...... but don't know what to expect of her
 
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zombie4000 is offline zombie4000 Post #2  February 20,2009, 8:24am
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Hey i am in the same boat. I have talked to my good friends and reached for advice. They all said wait it out and that seems to be the best thing to do. Women are different with men in relationships from what I noticed. Men are more physical and women are more emotional. Have you tried talking to her about how you are feeling? I am planning on talking to her about this but I have no clue on how to bring it up
 
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I would have to have some idea of how heinous her actions were in order to contribute something. Can you say? They might not be a big deal, but if you considered them tasteless and you were uncomfortable you might want to slow things down until you really know her character. Wait until BikerBeagle sees your post. He can give good advice on little info.
 
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You need to do what is best for you, consdiering someone else is admirable but in the end it is you that you need to do what is best for. Not knowing what all has gone on, I cannot adive one way or other. But you might want to back off some to figure things out.


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There's not much to go on other than she exhibits some traits of a wack job. If that's the case maybe that's why she's single (or divorced).
 
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Zaius is offline Zaius Post #7  February 20,2009, 10:21am
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some people have already said. your best bet is to wait it out a bit longer. . . no harm can be done. if nothing changes for a couple of weeks than take off.
 
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It's often hard to figure out what is best when you're in the relationship because you enjoy the love juice too much and after it's over hindsight is 20/20.


Maybe take a break to clear your head? You probably know the answer but it's hard to come to a conclusion while in the midst of it.
 
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