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Trikster is offline Trikster Post #61  February 17,2009, 2:32pm
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StatGamer,491756 wrote :

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These are all things I have done...My ex didn't appreciate them for what they were, my way of trying to say I love you...


1. If I know you have had a hard day at work, I will have a hot bath waiting for you (usually with bubbles) with a few candles lit to add a little ambiance.


2. If you are hungry when you arrive home, I will ask what sounds good and while you soak, will do my best to either make or get what you want.


3. If you don't want food, I will sit in the room with you so you can talk/vent about your day and rather than try to offer solutions, I will listen with empathy and compassion (provided that is what you like, if you like solutions, I am usually full of ideas)


I have read all the posts from the ladies here and I just have to ask myself, why do all of you live so far away from me?


Your ex didn't appreciate these things?? I am curious. What did she appreciate? I knowr people feel loved in different ways but I haven't ever met a woman who didn't enjoy such pampering.
Sometimes she appreciated it, often though, she didn't. Or if she did, she gave off an air of irritation. What did she appreciate? Heck if I know. She constantly changed her mind and when I would get frustrated and straight up ask what she would want, by the time I would go and do whatever she said she wanted, her mind would have changed and then trouble would start again.


Some people I guess you just cannot please, but she was extremely difficult. Heck, for V-Day one year, I had a package delivered to her office of her favorite chocolates with a certificate for a full day of pampering at her favorite day spa and a boquet of her favorite flowers (she wasn't that much into roses)... I had to ask her if she got the package, she said, "Yeah..." and that was it. What the?! Not even a thank you?


The next year I asked her what she would like for V-Day, she said, "Just huck a Hershy bar at me and I will be fine." (in a rather prissy voice that usually meant, go away while I think of something you did wrong, even if it was 5 years ago). So, since this was the beginning of the end, that year I did just that.
 
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Trikster,491902 wrote :

StatGamer,491756 wrote :


Trikster,491363 wrote :


These are all things I have done...My ex didn't appreciate them for what they were, my way of trying to say I love you...


1. If I know you have had a hard day at work, I will have a hot bath waiting for you (usually with bubbles) with a few candles lit to add a little ambiance.


2. If you are hungry when you arrive home, I will ask what sounds good and while you soak, will do my best to either make or get what you want.


3. If you don't want food, I will sit in the room with you so you can talk/vent about your day and rather than try to offer solutions, I will listen with empathy and compassion (provided that is what you like, if you like solutions, I am usually full of ideas)


I have read all the posts from the ladies here and I just have to ask myself, why do all of you live so far away from me?


Your ex didn't appreciate these things?? I am curious. What did she appreciate? I knowr people feel loved in different ways but I haven't ever met a woman who didn't enjoy such pampering.


Sometimes she appreciated it, often though, she didn't. Or if she did, she gave off an air of irritation. What did she appreciate? Heck if I know. She constantly changed her mind and when I would get frustrated and straight up ask what she would want, by the time I would go and do whatever she said she wanted, her mind would have changed and then trouble would start again.


Some people I guess you just cannot please, but she was extremely difficult. Heck, for V-Day one year, I had a package delivered to her office of her favorite chocolates with a certificate for a full day of pampering at her favorite day spa and a boquet of her favorite flowers (she wasn't that much into roses)... I had to ask her if she got the package, she said, "Yeah..." and that was it. What the?! Not even a thank you?


The next year I asked her what she would like for V-Day, she said, "Just huck a Hershy bar at me and I will be fine." (in a rather prissy voice that usually meant, go away while I think of something you did wrong, even if it was 5 years ago). So, since this was the beginning of the end, that year I did just that.
Trikster, I just gotta say what you tried to do for her was lovely, and thank goodness, you haven't been ruinedtowards another relationship.


Adding to my short answer previously: you will know i love you 1) b/c I will tell you often, 2) my actions will leave no doubt in your mind, and 3) I will learnwhat's important to you and it will become important to me (although, if it's football, I will fail miserably in Sharing it with you).
 
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Making time for you no matter how busy I am.


listening to your complaints, eventhough I don't want to.


like having you around.


hugyou and snuggle.


tell you howpretty you are.


Bring you some gifts.
 
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deegoesgreen,492071 wrote :

Trikster, I just gotta say what you tried to do for her was lovely, and thank goodness, you haven't been ruinedtowards another relationship.


Adding to my short answer previously: you will know i love you 1) b/c I will tell you often, 2) my actions will leave no doubt in your mind, and 3) I will learnwhat's important to you and it will become important to me (although, if it's football, I will fail miserably in Sharing it with you).


My act of love on football day (is it a few days? months? I don't even know) will be to leave you the heck alone and take off and do something fun by myself
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #65  February 17,2009, 5:43pm

It's almost time folks.....

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Apart from when I tell you so, you'll know I love you when I:


Buy tomatoes when I cook for you (I hate them)


Keep your favorite beer in my fridge


Buy your favorite shower gel so you don't have to use my coconut one


Start listening to music that you like but I've never heard of


Try & understand what the hell your job entails


Send you care packages


Start following your favorite football team


Don't care if you're not a Red Sox fan


Wear my night guard in bed


Stop asking if my snoring was bad


Hate it when our phone conversations end


Tell my parents about you (I never tell them who I date)
 
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PY is offline PY Post #66  February 17,2009, 6:19pm

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You will know I love you if:


We go to Mickey Dee's for our 1st anniversary, I'll let you supersize the fries AND the drinks!


Yes, ladies I'm single!
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #67  February 17,2009, 6:31pm

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PY,492246 wrote :

You will know I love you if:


We go to Mickey Dee's for our 1st anniversary, I'll let you supersize the fries AND the drinks!


Yes, ladies I'm single!

And we have a keeper folks..........


Hands off ladies, he's all mine.....
 
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angelofmerci,491792 wrote :

You knowI love you if.....


I watch a sitcom with you


I do not cringe when I see your clothes thrown everywhere


I do not say a thing when I notice you are doing 20 miles under the speed limit and we are 20 minutes late for an appointment


I do not say a thing when I find the kitchen looking like a diaster area after you have fixed something to eat
hmm...I see I have to add some of these criteria for men who might consider dating me
 
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Red Sox Girl,492272 wrote :

PY,492246 wrote :


You will know I love you if:


We go to Mickey Dee's for our 1st anniversary, I'll let you supersize the fries AND the drinks!


Yes, ladies I'm single!





And we have a keeper folks..........


Hands off ladies, he's all mine.....


Was it the fries that done you in? Did that irresistible offer just sucker you in RSG?
 
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simpletonHeart70,491771 wrote :

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Some of us took the Languages of Love test and realized what made us feel loved. But how do you show your love? We all know we allow our loved ones to get away with stuff that would drive us crazy in perfect strangers. So how will I know if you love me?

You will know I love you if.....


1. I let you talk to me while I'm trying to read
2. I put away a video game to fix you a sandwich.
3. You talk during a movie and all I do is kiss you and hope silently that you shut up, but never get mad at you
4. You act like a perfect baby when you're sick and I love you anyway
5. You take one of my brilliant ideas and 3 days later go "Honey! I have the best idea ever!" and I let you believe it was yours.

How about you? How will your SO know if you love him/her?


To sum up:


If you're act like a loser and I let you, then I love you?




Will you post yours SimpletonHeart?
 
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