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i'm 5'7" and dated a guy seriously for 2 years who is 5'0".  Height was a recurring struggle for me in the relationship because as a girl, I want to feel protected and feminine which was hard to do when I outweighed the guy by 40%.  That said, I would highly recommend that women give a guy a shot who might be the same height or one or two inches shorter.  There are AMAZING men out there who just happen to be short!  And, I think flats are way cute!  Believe me, even if you wear those heals and it makes you 4 inches taller than he is, doesn't change the fact that you're hot, hot, hot, and he gets to walk around with you on his arm all night!

- May 15th, 2009, 12:37 am
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Well, I must say I was compelled to add my two cents considering I am a woman that is 6'3" and have always dated men shorter than myself...granted the pool of men taller than myself is small, but I think I would still date men of all heights. I have found myself attracted to men of all heights (and men of all heights have been attracted to me)and would consider myself extremely shallow and judgmental to eliminate someone as a potential boyfriend simply because they were shorter. I am actually very happy with my height which yes, is Amazonian, but it seems to attract very unique, strong individuals who are more open to expressing their attraction. My ex-boyfriends found my appearance to be very sexy, but they also appreciated my intellect and kindness.

My height also acts as a filter for those men that would be superficial and focused on only my physical attributes...I am perfectly fine with not getting any attention from someone like that. Though, I am also fully aware that some men (especially older men) probably view my height as some dominatrix quality and have actually had the most bizarre exchanges from complete strangers in that respect. What has been most interesting to me was the reaction of other men when I was out with my boyfriend who was 5'9"...several times there were confrontations where they would tell me I shouldn't be with him...I don't profess to understand human behavior.

Anyway, the intangible qualities of what makes another person attracted to you (and vice versa) is forever fascinating and one of my favorite topics of discussion.
- June 20th, 2009, 07:45 pm
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Well, I will add my two cents worth (first post didn't work so I will try again) I am very tall at 6'3" but I have always dated shorter men for obvious reasons...there are more of them and men who will date a taller women are generally very open to expressing their attraction and aren't caught up in society's norms of "what looks right." I myself don't prescribe to judging someone from their height, and even if I were a different height, it honestly wouldn't make a difference to me one bit. I have had longterm relationships (14 years and 4 years) with men that were significantly shorter than me (5'11" and 5'9"). Height never played a role in my attraction to either one...I was drawn to other physical characteristics and their intellect and charm.

One great advantage about my height is that it really filters out those men that may have insecurities. I am an Amazon and I am glad that I can attract those men that have strong personalities, charisma and are happy to be seen with me. And, I understand there are personal preferences, I am fine with that. Just be aware that amazing people come in all sorts of packages...don't overlook them.

I will say that the response I would get from other men while going out with my last boyfriend really caught me off guard: several times men would come up to me and start asking why I was with him, and they would become quite aggressive. On the other hand, I have had complete strangers come up to me and make all sorts of bizarre requests of a sexual nature (older men especially) or I would be belittled...so it appears society is much more judgmental and perhaps that is another factor that people are conforming to as well.
- June 21st, 2009, 05:49 pm
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grammar_gal wrote :
I am 5'3"... I like men who are at least 6" -
At least six inches? I'm sure that shouldn't be too hard to find

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I am simply not attracted to men who are of a shorter stature even though I am quite petite.
I am simply not attracted to women who do not have big boobs

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I have found most shorter men... to be incredibly rude.
That's a funny coincidence, I found women with small boobs to also be very rude.
- June 21st, 2009, 06:01 pm
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I'm pretty average when it comes to height, because I'm 5'6". However, I wear 3" heels as a standard... I don't own anything lower then that except my flip flops and my sneakers... and really, the new trend is platforms, so I have some shoes that put me up 5" or more. I look for taller guys just because I don't like being the taller one, and if I'm dressed up for the night, I'm at least 5'9" and occasionally closer to 5'11".
As for the weight thing... well, I weigh 156. But I can promise you, if you looked at me, you'd swear it was lower then that, because I'm physically fit... I'm not a waif, that's all. So for weight, I say go by the picture, not the number. It can be WAY misleading... much more so then height.
- June 21st, 2009, 06:32 pm
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There used to be a singles group in St. Louis, MO called the TIP TOPPERS. I have not read anything about them recently. I think the criteria was men must be at least 6'2" and women 5'10". I would have liked to join because I am attracted to taller women, but being only 6'0" tall, I did not measure up. What a bummer!
- June 21st, 2009, 08:11 pm
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I feel compelled to post.

I recently went on a date with a man who was only two inches taller than myself, I am 5' 4". As we walked to dinner I fully realized that we were the same height. I have never been with a man near my own height and the affect was instantaneous. Something about looking into his eyes as we walked.

The truth is that there was nowhere to hide in the space between us. It was arresting and freeing all at the same time. And when we kissed it was with our whole bodies aware of each other--nothing out of reach. Truly intimate.
- June 27th, 2009, 01:36 pm
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This may seem strange but I think I'm probably taller than what I list in my EH profile. I have myself listed at 6'2" but I'm probably 6'3". The reason I have myself listed at 6'2" is because that is how tall I was the last time I was measured; a very long time ago. I suspect I eked out another inch sometime after college. So why haven't I taken the time to get another measurement? Because it really doesn't matter at this point if I'm 6'2" or 6'3". I can tell you I'm taller than I need to be and to the point where it is a disadvantage at times.

Its funny how many guy just flat out lie about their height. I have friends who claim to be 6'1" or 6'2" and they are clearly at least two inches shorter than this. They like to call me 6'4". I don't say anything to them...I just roll my eyes. I've had a number of women tell me they are surprised at how tall I look. I think it is because most of their dates lie and they get a false indication of what 6' looks like.

I will agree with the author of the article. Woman flat out like a guy who is at least 6' tall. I've never had an issue with anyone woman that said I'm just too tall.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:23 pm
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This may seem strange but I think I'm probably taller than what I list in my EH profile. I have myself listed at 6'2" but I'm probably 6'3". The reason I have myself listed at 6'2" is because that is how tall I was the last time I was measured; a very long time ago. I suspect I eked out another inch sometime after college. So why haven't I taken the time to get another measurement? Because it really doesn't matter at this point if I'm 6'2" or 6'3". I can tell you I'm taller than I need to be and to the point where it is a disadvantage at times.
No way, man, I'm 6'3" and I've not had it be a disadvantage other than picking a car out that would fit my feet.
- July 2nd, 2009, 05:23 pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
No way, man, I'm 6'3" and I've not had it be a disadvantage other than picking a car out that would fit my feet.
Yes, car problems...cramped seat on airplane...ducking underneath decorations hanging from the ceiling in work places, restaurants, and bars....avoiding getting hit in the head by shorter people with umbrellas...little ol' ladies always asking me in the grocery store to pull a food item off the top shelf for them (actually I don't mind its just kind of funny to see how they plan to approach the subject because I see them stalking me out as I walk down the isle).

I'm not complaining about being tall. I'm just saying that some people don't realize there ARE pitfalls. I'll take tall over short any day.
- July 2nd, 2009, 05:30 pm
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