Do men avoid starting relationships around Valentine's Day?


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eternaloptimist is offline eternaloptimist Post #41  February 11,2009, 3:51pm
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obliviouschick,482620 wrote :

Come on guys...I know there are more of you out there with an opinion on this subject. Do you avoid starting a relationship around Valentine's Day?
Me too. I'm extremely interested to hear answers from as many men as possible. Excellent question. I've been a spectator on these boards for a little while but this question prompted me to post.Hope there will be lots of brutally honest answers.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008,478873 wrote :

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Do guys break up with a gf just to avoid V-Day and then make-up afterwards?


My observation is that a lot of couples (mostly initiated by the girls) meet up before the Christmas / New Years holiday and then break up shortly after New Years. This would give the impression that guys are breaking up to avoid Valentines Day. My perception is that it is usually the girl that wanted someone for the Christmas holiday and for a New Years party then wishes to be single and prowling once those holidays have passed. In other words it is the girls doing the breaking up not the guys.


But then what would I actually know?
And I've known men who schedule dates for Christmas and New Years so that they aren't alone and then stop calling right after the holidays. It's not gender specific. Happens.
 
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obliviouschick, wrote :

Just wondering if men avoid an awkward situation by staying under the radar around Valentine's Day? If you are in the getting to know each other stage and not really offically "dating", do they want to avoid V-Day so they don't send the wrong message to a girl? What do you think? MEN, step up here...Have you done this?
Well, I just went on a first date with a girl on Monday and I'm trying to figure out myself what if proper. I'm into her, but I don't want to seem overly eager by meeting on Valentine's Day. So, I think I'm just going to send a card. What do you think?
 
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obliviouschick,482620 wrote :

Come on guys...I know there are more of you out there with an opinion on this subject. Do you avoid starting a relationship around Valentine's Day?
I don't think men avoid starting a relationship around V-Day, but I do think that many men in various stages of dating or relationships are very careful about the message we send her by our actions around V-Day.
 
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obliviouschick, wrote :

Just wondering if men avoid an awkward situation by staying under the radar around Valentine's Day? If you are in the getting to know each other stage and not really offically "dating", do they want to avoid V-Day so they don't send the wrong message to a girl? What do you think? MEN, step up here...Have you done this?
LOL!! I actually posted this as a fun question to my daughter... and she bet me $5 that she can get a boyfriend by valentines day. We'll see!
 
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RobInPlano,483052 wrote :

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Just wondering if men avoid an awkward situation by staying under the radar around Valentine's Day? If you are in the getting to know each other stage and not really offically "dating", do they want to avoid V-Day so they don't send the wrong message to a girl? What do you think? MEN, step up here...Have you done this?


LOL!! I actually posted this as a fun question to my daughter... and she bet me $5 that she can get a boyfriend by valentines day. We'll see!
Is your daughter a teenager?? If so, then that sounds like a lose-lose for you!!
 
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obliviouschick,482620 wrote :

Come on guys...I know there are more of you out there with an opinion on this subject. Do you avoid starting a relationship around Valentine's Day?
2nd attempt to post this: Me too. This is an excellent question and I'm extremely eager to hear as many brutally honest and unabashed answers from as manymen as possible. Watching this thread like a hawk. C'mon, guys, please let 'er rip ...
 
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Not sure how to respond...


Sure I avoid relationships around Valentines Day, but then I avoid relationships the rest of the year too, so it's kind of a wash.
 
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Okay, if I just met her, then yeah I avoid it, because I don't want to come off as clingy. If I have been in good communication or even been on a few dates, then I'd probably be subtle. If she and I have been dating for a bit before hand, I'd go all out to let her know she's my valentine. =D
 
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Okay, so I think we have a general consensus that men do in fact, avoid starting a relationship around Valentine's Day. If you disagree, please don't hesitate to respond with your past experiences. I guess the follow up question would be: What is your reason for avoiding starting a relationship around Valentine's Day? Do you think a woman would get the "serious" vibe from you? Or do you want to avoid the gift/flower giving part of it as to not send an unintended message? If you're going to take a "break" from dating, is V-Day time the best time to do it?


There have been a ton of views on this thread...don't be shy!! Tell us your thoughts!!!
 
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