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SloopyGirl,472329 wrote :

I'm also younger than the age referred to in the original post. But for me, at age 43, as I'd still like to have children I tend to actively look for women younger than myself who wouldn't have a problem having a child a few years from now (after meeting, dating, marriage etc.). If I didn't want to have a child I'd probably extend my age range upward into the mid to high 40s.





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StatGamer,472616 wrote :


I dunno about men but I'm 42. In the past 12 months I've dated 28-50. Can't see myself with the 28 year old even though he is a sweetheart. So also with the 28 and 32 year olds based solely on their age. 34+s that I met woulda worked for me on an age-alone basis.


just to stir the pot a little- not that it isn't already...


what about eight years older? just asking...


because it seems to me that while the men are being taken to task for being interested in younger women- the women are just (almost) as interested in younger men!


just saying! i love you all. (especially my bud stat.) but am i wrong in my perception of this thread?
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with women (or men) dating people quite a bit younger than they are. The practical issue for meseems to be that many women who aren'tat leastclose to 30 may not really now what they want in a man and in a relationship. They're just kind of 'playing' at relationships and calibrating (which is a process they need to go through).


I have a hunch that the practical problem for women with dating a man who is quite a bit younger thanthem is that at some point in the future he'll decide he doesn't want to be with an older woman. Of course, there's the problem of men who are just trying to appear to be nice guys so they can get laid...but that likely exists in most age groups for men.
 
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notyet,472763 wrote :

just to stir the pot a little- not that it isn't already...


what about eight years older? just asking...


because it seems to me that while the men are being taken to task for being interested in younger women- the women are just (almost) as interested in younger men!


just saying! i love you all. (especially my bud stat.) but am i wrong in my perception of this thread?
Actually IME it is the younger men that are interested in older women. You can bet that no matter how cute I thought they were, I did not approach the much-younger ones. They approach me and often, pursue pretty hard despite my first "Eh?? Wha...?? Speak up me dear, Granny can't hear so well" response.


Eight years older to me would be 50 and I've dated several in that age range and consider them a good fit for me age-wise as well.


What's mattered for me is where they are in a) their lifestage and b)their emotional maturity.


The 28-year old asked me to come pick me up from his college dorm on our second date, which was too too kinkeh for me. I picked him up and did the "you're a darling but...seriously?" routine. But he was fairly emotionally stable and we get along great.


The 50-year old had some emotional...stoppage shall we call it which prevented healthy discussion and resolution of issues which appeared all the time. But in other respects, his life was more similiar to mine than was that of the dorm-dweller.


My ex-husband was 13 years older than me, and whatever problems we had, age was not one of them.


Within a certain range of my own age, it stops being about the age and starts being about other compatibility issues.
 
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StatGamer,473218 wrote :

The 28-year old asked me to come pick me up from his college dorm on our second date, which was too too kinkeh for me. I picked him up and did the "you're a darling but...seriously?" routine. But he was fairly emotionally stable and we get along great.
This is a bit off-topic....but what was a 28 year old doing living in a dorm? That seems kind of odd. Even most of the undergrads I know are out of the dorms their sophomore year.
 
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jayjay,473248 wrote :

StatGamer,473218 wrote :


The 28-year old asked me to come pick me up from his college dorm on our second date, which was too too kinkeh for me. I picked him up and did the "you're a darling but...seriously?" routine. But he was fairly emotionally stable and we get along great.


This is a bit off-topic....but what was a 28 year old doing living in a dorm? That seems kind of odd. Even most of the undergrads I know are out of the dorms their sophomore year.
Exchange student from diff country, had worked for several years before re-starting school. Monetary restrictions with exchange rates made dorm most affordable.
 
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me too stat..... I don't pursue anyone. I don't go looking for younger guys, they found me. Most of the guys I've dated have been my age or a couple of years older. But there have been a couple that were a little younger that really stood out to me and changed my opinion. The yongest I have ever considered was about 5-6 years younger than me...but that was kind of a big deal since I was 28/29.


Oh, I lived in a dorm for 2 months when I was 29....I ended up at the Best Western for the last week of it...summer semester of my last year of grad school....lease was up and I was travelling a lot anyway. Still...it was ....an experience.
 
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ccunurse,471626 wrote :

Just going on past experience, I get a lot of winks, icebreakers, etc. from the late 30's to late 40's guys. I am 33 and much more interested in guys my own age to 5 or 6 years younger.
I think you can throw out formulas because the new generations are less traditional and like ccunurse says, shes not looking for that much older and more likely younger.


I'll go +/- 5 years. I run into too many women like ccu that don't want an older guy, even 5 years older. And frankly I don't want to be with someone that makes me feel old neither.


I can see where men in their 50s or older are more traditional and expect to find a younger woman. It's just a different generation for the 30 year olds and younger. Those women won't settle for an older dude. So almost 40, I have to look for someone around my age.





I forgot where I read "myths about dating" and one of them was "women like older men". It said most women these days see 10 years as the biggest separation and many prefer younger men.


Lets face it, physically we all want someone younger. You're just delusional in expecting them to want you.
 
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