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StatGamer,458501 wrote :

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When he touches the small of my back as we walk to our table and it makes my breath catch in my throat. ...
Hmm, maybe that is what I am doing wrong. I would feel that it would be totally inapproriate to touch someone that I have just met for the first time moments before.
 
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None of you women have talked about the "naughty butterflies" of previous threads on this subject.
 
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three_eyes,460303 wrote :

I'm a bit surprised more men haven't thought more about this (thanks to Jim47 and others who have posted...).
Chemistry is the prime ingredient of all very short marriages.


Given that 50% of all marriages end in disaster, I think it just as wise to shun chemistry as it is to go looking for it.


Better to use your head later on before you get into trouble.


And I think real chemistry is made, not found. It's not to have a head start, so to speak, but before you have the slightest clue as to whether this other person is a serial killer or something, it's probably best not to trust too much to chemistry.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008,460339 wrote :

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When he touches the small of my back as we walk to our table and it makes my breath catch in my throat. ...


Hmm, maybe that is what I am doing wrong. I would feel that it would be totally inapproriate to touch someone that I have just met for the first time moments before.
Well, I think we might break the rules a little bit if there's a lot of chemistry!
 
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Given the descriptions in this thread it would seem that I have never experienced "chemistry" nor generated it.
 
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3rd_the_charm,460363 wrote :

three_eyes,460303 wrote :


I'm a bit surprised more men haven't thought more about this (thanks to Jim47 and others who have posted...).


Chemistry is the prime ingredient of all very short marriages.


Given that 50% of all marriages end in disaster, I think it just as wise to shun chemistry as it is to go looking for it.


Better to use your head later on before you get into trouble.


And I think real chemistry is made, not found. It's not to have a head start, so to speak, but before you have the slightest clue as to whether this other person is a serial killer or something, it's probably best not to trust too much to chemistry.
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I remember meeting this guy at a party or a bar or something and we started talking and we were looking directly at each other and the banter was just flying back and forth. Other people tried to interject into the conversation and we just completely ignored them, it was like we couldn't even be distracted enough to hear what they were saying. It was so intense. I couldn't even tell you what he looked like, because it was all mental. It was incredible chemistry. I never had that same feeling before or since.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008,460402 wrote :

Given the descriptions in this thread it would seem that I have never experienced "chemistry" nor generated it.
How do you know that you've never generated it??
 
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Gr8Guyn2008,460402 wrote :

Given the descriptions in this thread it would seem that I have never experienced "chemistry" nor generated it.
I could have pointed out that the vast majority of people at eharmony know all about how vastly important chemistry is in finding a worthwhile relationship, yet, at the same time, they are all here because they have not found a worthwhile relationship.
 
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I know there’s chemistry when he trips all me senses….
1. Seeing him… puts a smile on my face and makes me want to get closer.
2. His Scent… puts me at ease and I want to wrap my legs around him.
3. Taste… of sweet passion as his lips are pressed on mine.
4. Hearing… his tone… views… opinions… and way he articulates them, even in disagreements resonates with me.
5. Feel… energized when we’re together… safe whenever he’s near.
 
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