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As a single guy, of course that doesn't help, but if you're married, it will!
Careful there JJ5...you were almost giving advice on having sex to an single man! That would be promoting fornication.; )
- January 30th, 2009, 07:49 am
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To the OP, Class. And, only for non independently thinking people. If you dis someone bc they have no formal education without discerning why, then you never learned what your formal schooling was for.
- January 30th, 2009, 07:51 am
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MelinCali wrote :


I'm with you CC.


Plus I can't stand the one-upmanship javajava5 has asked about in a post above. I also hate when people try to prove how smart they are by tring to ridicule someone else's lack of knowledge in an area outside their experiences. That just reeks of insecurity and is very unattractive. I've only gotten that from people without the experience of going to a university.


One upmanship is a guarantee of no second date or an immediate match close from me. I've observed the same topic discussed on other discussion boards. The persons who decry 'educated idiots' the loudest, usually have very little education themselves. Only one who has gone through the process of getting an education, really understands that it merely broadens one's outlook and improves one's critical thinking skills. It does not make one any less forgetful, or competent in areas that need specialized knowledge.


The dealbreaker for me is not the absence of an education. It is the absence of intelligence-including emotional intelligence, that matters most to me. I like a man who is open to learning new things. However, I'm not impressed by the well educated man who flaunts that education.
- January 30th, 2009, 08:39 am
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jayjay wrote :

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As a single guy, of course that doesn't help, but if you're married, it will!


Careful there JJ5...you were almost giving advice on having sex to an single man! That would be promoting fornication.; )
Dear JayJay,


Was very careful to mention having sizzling sex with one's wife in my original post!


JavaJava5


P. S. Guess you're the other "JJ!"
- January 30th, 2009, 08:49 am
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I know atleast three people with their Masters Degree, who are thedumbest three people I have ever met. Education is important, but, not going to, or finishing college does not mean someone is unintelligent. If you're a freakin' doorknob,....going to college isnt going to change that. You may memorize historical events, learn equations and formulas (which you almost immediately forget), memorize significant dates, and other things,...but, if you arent savvy in the ways of the social world,...you still seem like an idiot. I mean,...what are you saying here? That you are a better class of person because you attended college over those that didnt? That, somehow, going to college means you are more important than some people? I know people that didnt even finish high school that work harder than anyone I know. They get up at 5am, go to work, every day and do their job in outstanding fashion with intelligence and pride. They pay their bills, own beautiful homes, raise intelligent, well-behaved kids, and pay their taxes. A few of them own their own business. Successful ones, I might add. For the person who said that not attending college means that a guy didnt want to be "bothered" with securing a future of learning anything,......you sound like the biggest snob on the planet. YOU are what is wrong with this country. People like you who look down their plastic-surgery encased noses at hard working people, who mind their own business. Seriously,...what makes you better than ANYONE,.....ANYONE ELSE???? You may be thinking to your self-absorbed self,..."spoken like someone without an education". Well,...I may not have my Masters,....but, I dohave my Associates Degree,..and I would take an honest, hard-working, sweet, and thoughtful person without a college degree ANY DAY over some snooty, college educated,conceded narcisist, like you. You should be ashamed of yourself for those comments. I cant stand people like you.
- January 30th, 2009, 09:19 am
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D_Lion wrote :

Can I ask the researchers in the house?

How do I get sizzling passion in the bedroom?


As a researcher my answer would be test-and-learn types of experiments. Generate many hypotheses with your co-researcher who should probably be the Object of your Affection. Do not neglect to jointly gather information via photographic and film devices. This activity when shared can result in great brainstorming and scientific excitement.


Be creative in designing your experiments and repeat often to ensure reliability of results. If you are so inclined, enroll others in your experiments and either participate or observe closely the results. You may prefer to have many other observe and take notes on the performance between you and the Object of your Affection so as to ensure inter-rated reliability of observed results. This will also give you the abillity to generalize results.


If the latter does not appeal, requesting your SO to take on many different roles or taking on such yourself may be of value. Be creative and engage in fantasies during this process.


Please do not limit your experimental location to simply one room in the house. Different environments may produce different results. Some literature particularly highlights the effectivess of the laundry room in enhancing effects.


Once the experiment is underway, many factors should be considered.


If temperaments allow, be sure to seek verbal confirmation of the success of your experiment, and perhaps also suggest ahead of time what the next step in the experiment will be. Some subjects enjoy the verbal pre-saging of activities to come.


Additionally, you want to reduce "nuisance" variables. Ensure that children, dogs, and neighbors are unable to interrupt as you do not want your experimental cadence interrupted. Prematurely.


Additional variables that will impact the results include things such as the appearance of the Object of the Affection. You can solve for this variable in two ways. 1. Enlist many different Os of A and experiment repeatedly 2. Ask your single O of A to dress in many different guises. Again, brainstorming is of value and many websites can provide ideas for different attires that may satisfy your experimental constraints.


Speaking of constraints, be sure to experiment in such a way that you can isolate the impact of single vs. mutual activity. Sometimes, naughty subjects need to be constrained in some manner so that your counterbalanced design of constraint vs. freedom stays intact.


The use of different footwear has been shown in past literature to effect results. Ensuring that a variety of footwear is at hand will allow for a more robust design. Similarly, a significant body of literature suggests that anatomically accurate adjuncts can play an important role. Please experiment lavishly and report on the results of these adjuncts individually and together.


Work diligently and you may even find that the Hawthorne effect shall ensue, where the very act of observation and testing increases workers' performance


Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me for further details.


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StatGamer wrote :

Work diligently and you may even find that the Hawthorne effect shall ensue, where the very act of observation and testing increases workers' performance
OK....sounds good but there's a problem. As Niels Bohr said, the very act of observing or conducting such an experiment itself changes your results. You may discover the occurrence of a Hawthorne effect....but this may last only as long as you're in the initial 'testing' phase. Once you start getting to post-tests and 'retention' tests you may find your Hawthorne or other effects disappearing....as the Object of Affection goes back to their normal, non-observed state. Also...what theoretical model are you basing your 'experiments' on? That could be very important.
- January 30th, 2009, 11:41 am
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jayjay wrote :

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Work diligently and you may even find that the Hawthorne effect shall ensue, where the very act of observation and testing increases workers' performance


OK....sounds good but there's a problem. As Niels Bohr said, the very act of observing or conducting such an experiment itself changes your results. You may discover the occurrence of a Hawthorne effect....but this may last only as long as you're in the initial 'testing' phase. Once you start getting to post-tests and 'retention' tests you may find your Hawthorne or other effects disappearing....as the Object of Affection goes back to their normal, non-observed state. Also...what theoretical model are you basing your 'experiments' on? That could be very important.
You are correct--subject fatigue may occur with repeated exposures. The Hawthorne effect's principle's can be employed differently. You can either subsitute new subjects or invest in a web camera so that someone new is always observing. That will certainly bring passion into someone's bedroom (note D_Lion did not specify it needed to occur in HIS bedroom). Additionally, rotating your subject population may be of value.


It can also be confidentally stated that if it is merely the Hawthorne effect that has caused the performance enhancement, your subject is contaminated and you will need to find someone who truly enjoys the long and arduous experimental process. Not all are cut out for this endeavor.


As to the theoretical basis...Over the years I have conducted an extensive literature review and gathered experiential data via both personal participation as well as ethnographic/diary studies where I have gathered material from others. Quasi experimental designs no doubt, but analyzed correctly, these have value.


Should you care to collaborate on further experiments, kindly contact me at my professional email address. I would even consider following your lead so that you may have first author status.
- January 30th, 2009, 11:51 am
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StatGamer wrote :


D_Lion wrote :

Can I ask the researchers in the house?

How do I get sizzling passion in the bedroom?


As a researcher my answer would be test-and-learn types of experiments. Generate many hypotheses with your co-researcher who should probably be the Object of your Affection. Do not neglect to jointly gather information via photographic and film devices. This activity when shared can result in great brainstorming and scientific excitement.


Be creative in designing your experiments and repeat often to ensure reliability of results. If you are so inclined, enroll others in your experiments and either participate or observe closely the results. You may prefer to have many other observe and take notes on the performance between you and the Object of your Affection so as to ensure inter-rated reliability of observed results. This will also give you the abillity to generalize results.


If the latter does not appeal, requesting your SO to take on many different roles or taking on such yourself may be of value. Be creative and engage in fantasies during this process.


Please do not limit your experimental location to simply one room in the house. Different environments may produce different results. Some literature particularly highlights the effectivess of the laundry room in enhancing effects.


Once the experiment is underway, many factors should be considered.


If temperaments allow, be sure to seek verbal confirmation of the success of your experiment, and perhaps also suggest ahead of time what the next step in the experiment will be. Some subjects enjoy the verbal pre-saging of activities to come.


Additionally, you want to reduce "nuisance" variables. Ensure that children, dogs, and neighbors are unable to interrupt as you do not want your experimental cadence interrupted. Prematurely.


Additional variables that will impact the results include things such as the appearance of the Object of the Affection. You can solve for this variable in two ways. 1. Enlist many different Os of A and experiment repeatedly 2. Ask your single O of A to dress in many different guises. Again, brainstorming is of value and many websites can provide ideas for different attires that may satisfy your experimental constraints.


Speaking of constraints, be sure to experiment in such a way that you can isolate the impact of single vs. mutual activity. Sometimes, naughty subjects need to be constrained in some manner so that your counterbalanced design of constraint vs. freedom stays intact.


The use of different footwear has been shown in past literature to effect results. Ensuring that a variety of footwear is at hand will allow for a more robust design. Similarly, a significant body of literature suggests that anatomically accurate adjuncts can play an important role. Please experiment lavishly and report on the results of these adjuncts individually and together.


Work diligently and you may even find that the Hawthorne effect shall ensue, where the very act of observation and testing increases workers' performance


Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me for further details.





Hilarious, StatGamer!


I especially agree with the highlighted portions -- my motto has always (OK, since I was no longer married) been: "early and often."





But wait! What's this got to do with college degrees??!
- January 30th, 2009, 11:51 am
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But wait! What's this got to do with college degrees??!
Perhaps that they may expand your untutored perversion such that you can turn soft p0rn into a scientific discourse?
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