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BGood wrote :
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Okay Bgood....let's hear the joke...can't judge til I hear it!


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Sorry ladies, you could not handle these jokes. Women are too sensitive for jokes like these. That is the point of this discussion. Why can't women handle certain jokes or conversations? I'm here to learn, not insult. Teach me ladies
I wonder how you would respond to me if I told a really crude joke? Some men also have a double standard about how they relate to other men and then to women.
- January 28th, 2009, 06:41 am
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My point exactly. Women get offended only when men talk about or joke about sex. They have no problem with a woman doing it. They actually enjoy when women talk about sex. That is why "Sex and the City" is so popular. On that show you hear dirty sex talk and see sex scenes all the time and women love it. It's clearly a double standard.


And again with the sweeping generalizations and conclusions based on those generalizations. Honestly, if your thinking and/or communication skills are this lax all the time, it's no wonder you're having issues with basic social intercourse.


Oh yeah, I see you're doing exceptional in the social scene yourself.


The point is: Some people are so stuck-up, stuck in 1873 where a woman can't be the truly sexual being that she should be that if you as much as make any sort of innuendo, she'll flip out and tell you how you're going to Hell.

These are usually the people that become crazy old cat ladies.
I think no one here would argue with the idea of you being familiar with crazy,


Most people who know me IRL know that I have aspirations to become a crazy old cat lady one day. They bring such joy to my life. You should get a cat too ManekiNeko.
What's the cat for?
- January 28th, 2009, 06:43 am
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ManekiNeko wrote :

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My point exactly. Women get offended only when men talk about or joke about sex. They have no problem with a woman doing it. They actually enjoy when women talk about sex. That is why "Sex and the City" is so popular. On that show you hear dirty sex talk and see sex scenes all the time and women love it. It's clearly a double standard.


And again with the sweeping generalizations and conclusions based on those generalizations. Honestly, if your thinking and/or communication skills are this lax all the time, it's no wonder you're having issues with basic social intercourse.


Oh yeah, I see you're doing exceptional in the social scene yourself.
Let's all join in together to sing a chorus of 'Personal insults'. It's an old song that many love to sing, but no one likesto have sung to them. It's a song that generally makes people forget what they werepreviously discussing.
- January 28th, 2009, 08:05 am
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Red Sox Girl wrote :

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My point exactly. Women get offended only when men talk about or joke about sex. They have no problem with a woman doing it. They actually enjoy when women talk about sex. That is why "Sex and the City" is so popular. On that show you hear dirty sex talk and see sex scenes all the time and women love it. It's clearly a double standard.


And again with the sweeping generalizations and conclusions based on those generalizations. Honestly, if your thinking and/or communication skills are this lax all the time, it's no wonder you're having issues with basic social intercourse.


Oh yeah, I see you're doing exceptional in the social scene yourself.





Excuse me?
LOL...what she said.


And MN...if it ever came down to a choice between you and cats, the cats would win hands-down.


I've seen first-hand the way you treat "sexual beings" and it was not pretty.I know there are those here who think you are ill and tip-toe around you because of it. It may be true that you are ill but I think it is truer that you are simply ill-spirited. To paraphrase another recent thread...sometimes it is just becausesomeone isa jerk.
- January 28th, 2009, 08:08 am
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Why not just...I don't know...hang out with people who share your sense of humor?


That's what I do. I have a very subtle, often hilarious sense of humor, but it requires a certain amount of perception to "get." People who take themselves too seriously get offended by it easily. I'm OK with that. If you get offended by my humor, in general, I apologize, wish you the best, and find a new friend. Not everyone is compatible with everyone else. If I can't be myself around you I don't want to be around you. Makes perfect sense to me!


As Chris Rock said, it's not the words themselves that matter, it's the context in which they are used. Humor is often a gauge by which both men and women (women tend to be better at it, though) use to judge a person's social skills. If a guy is plenty of fun at the bar or around peers but she's afraid to take him to a dinner party it's a bad sign. Please note that the reverse is also true; there are girls I've dated who I couldn't bring around my friends, mostly for the opposite reason, as I knew she'd be offended by them. My friends are good people and being unable to discern this indicates a judgmental character that I don't get along with.


The difficulty arises because being around a woman you're attracted to raises a unique problem (pun intended ). Women, I hate to break it to you, but there aren't many men out there who, if they're attracted to you, don't think about sex with you. And honestly I don't believe you aren't thinking the same darn thing, but go put on your innocent act if you want =)! This change in focus tends to make guys talk about sex more than they otherwise would. Yeah, we talk about sex with our buddies, but (at least in my group) it's much more common with women around.


There's a lot of reasons for this and I could go into them but it'll make this longer than I want so I'll shut up. One of the biggest recommendations I could give is be funny about more than just sex. There's a difference between a sex joke in the midst of other types of humor and nothing but sex jokes. I take few things seriously so I joke about a lot of things, especially when topics get too heated.


So while you may want to get that joke about premature ejaculation out really quick she may want you to take it a bit slower. Once you've been there for a while it'll be OK as long as you're aware of her current state. If you wait too long she'll be over the whole thing and get bored with you. It's always best if you're together!


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- January 28th, 2009, 10:08 am
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I love that post Jacquesne - it's just spot-on. Perfect.


It truly is about being with someone (friend or partner) who "gets" you, who you "get" - sharing ofwavelengths as it were. When these moons align, I find that "anything" we talk about is fine, regardless of how socially taboo the topic would be considered by others.


I tend not to spend much of my free time (out of choice) with people who aren't "there" on that wavelength somewhere. Life's too short......
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Red Sox Girl wrote :

I love that post Jacquesne - it's just spot-on. Perfect.


It truly is about being with someone (friend or partner) who "gets" you, who you "get" - sharing ofwavelengths as it were. When these moons align, I find that "anything" we talk about is fine, regardless of how socially taboo the topic would be considered by others.


I tend not to spend much of my free time (out of choice) with people who aren't "there" on that wavelength somewhere. Life's too short......
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :

LOL...what she said.


And MN...if it ever came down to a choice between you and cats, the cats would win hands-down.


I've seen first-hand the way you treat "sexual beings" and it was not pretty.I know there are those here who think you are ill and tip-toe around you because of it. It may be true that you are ill but I think it is truer that you are simply ill-spirited. To paraphrase another recent thread...sometimes it is just becausesomeone isa jerk.
well, let me sum this up for you in terms you can understand. Feel free to stop me if something is too complicated for you -- I may use more than two syllables in a word, after all.



You claimed to take the high road in regards to your social aptitude and prowess, even going as far as to belittle another poster for his lack of accomplishments in that field, yet you have in excess of 2,500 posts on a dating site. Seriously. If you were really being the "sexual being" that you are trying to personify, or even anywhere close to it, you wouldn't have time to post 2,500 posts. You'd be too busy trying to free up your little black book, having mad passionate sex and wouldn't waste your time lambasting someone who you only know one side of. You don't even know what I look like, honestly.

So don't come down here, berate other people and expect me to go crying a river. I admit I have social difficulties, and admitting it is half of the problem. You are in denial, and I don't mean the river in Egypt.
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Could be that when you say "women" you are being a little general. I do not get offended in anyway if someone is joking about it. In fact I am typically worse than most men, but I have a bit of a twisted sense of humor.


Perhaps you may want to check the situations where you are doing it. Are you in church lol? 1st date? In front of children? There are a lot of women who will get offended easily, but knowing when it's ok to do it is more important.


And that's what she said.......lol


I'm glad that you brought that up. That is exactly the kind of situation that I meant. I have had conversations with women in which they brought up sex. Sometimes in a very crude or joking way. They have said things to me that could get a man in trouble. When I respond to them in the same way, they twist it around on me. They try to make me out to be a pervert. Why is that? I think that women like that are just playing head games. What do you think?
it's not a head game. If you know how these women are going to react when you turn it back to them...then don't do it. Simple.


also, i agree with the crude comments
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