He lied about his height and it ruined the date


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In_Bloom is offline In_Bloom Post #1  January 21,2009, 7:10pm
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I met someone for the first time in-person recently and he lied about his height. Granted, many of you will probably criticize me for being shallow, etc. but I'm not bothered. He said he was 5'8" and he's my height, about 5'6". This set the tone for the rest of the date, the realization that he fibbed and it just felt... tainted. Some of the women reading this will understand. Worst is that he is obviously interested in me and had high expectations. He could have saved himself a lot of trouble. It's MY right if I don't want to date someone that short; and it's not cool to trick someone because they are self-conscious about height/weight/age or anything else.


It's so disappointing, a cheap tactic... PLEASE BE HONEST IN YOUR PROFILES! It saves a lot of future heartache and annoyance. That's my vent.
 
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He may not actually know exactly how tall he is.(believe it or not.)


I am only 34 & I am definitely slightly shorter than I was in high school/ college.


He may have been lying or perhaps has not been measuredin years. Hard to say... but it may be more ignorance of the facts than embellishment of them.
 
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bigfincat,444280 wrote :

He may not actually know exactly how tall he is.(believe it or not.)


I am only 34 & I am definitely slightly shorter than I was in high school/ college.


He may have been lying or perhaps has not been measuredin years. Hard to say... but it may be more ignorance of the facts than embellishment of them.
You could be right, but isn't height something you have on your driver's license? Also he's only in his late 20s. You make an interesting point...
 
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bigfincat,444280 wrote :

He may not actually know exactly how tall he is.(believe it or not.)

not! how could you not know how tall you are... at least within 1 inch...
 
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I promise I am taller than someone else … honest! Will you date me?
 
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I've found that shorter men tend to fudge the height by a couple of inches. So I automatically subtract two inches from their stated height, especially if they are in the 5'7" - 5'11" range. No guy fudges the 6' or higher number, they know their height and are pretty accurate about it at that point. This is based on highly scientific findings of my own online dating experiences, do with it what you will.
 
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Actually until driver's license actually check the data...meaning height and weight of both sexes...this will happen. I think women would have a lot of issue if we had to renew our license if we lost or gained more than 5 lbs.


At least the guy was your height...it would have been weird to expect to look up and be looking at eye level or down.


I think with the profile matching based on height...the lying is to avoid not getting matched. Many probably don't realize that it presents the issue if this isn't true...what else isn't?


If you liked the guy and can see past it though...sometimes these situations can become a nonissue. In a lot of ways it is like the photos...never met a person that looks exactly like their photo...and most photos all look slightly different of the same person.
 
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Yeah, I remember one of my first dates from online. He said he was 5'11" and in his pic, his hair looked brown. It turned out he was about 5'7" and blond. I don't like blonds. I don't like short. I called up my BFF after and jawed about it; she said to give him another chance. So I did, and we wound up dating for a few months. It wasn't true love, but it taught me how expectations can kill good potential in online dating.


So what I'm saying is, yeah, that's annoying. But you might want to give him another chance.
 
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Would you have gone out with him if he told you he was 5'6"? I too would be put off by someone obviously lying to me, but from what I hear from my shorter male friends, it's tough getting women to go out with you if you're under 5'8" or thereabouts. That doesn't make the fibbing right, but I can understand why it happens.
 
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I'm 5'7", 145,hence why I am single. No wait, it's because I live in a small town that lacks women in their 20's who are educated, don't have kids, don't smoke, don't have a drug problem and weigh under 125.
 
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