The way metrosexuals have been described in this thread, I would say no, I don't want a man who is more vain, prissy and girly than I am. I should be the only one wearing makeup.


Also, for me, the main reason gay men are attractive is because they pay attention to their hygiene and their looks, they take time to try and dress attractively (particularly the way their pants and shirts fit), and they havemore open personalities with women. I guess for some women the unavailability of a gay man might explain her attraction, but for me it's been the significant difference in his more polished appearance, his complete lack of fear in talking to me, his friendly manner, and his ability to relate to me on a level that most straight men just don't get. I've never been sexually attracted to a gay man or wanted to try converting one - I like them for friendship and fun. They are like eunuchs to me as far as sexual attraction goes.


All that said, however, I've always been attracted to a man who is clean, well-groomed, and looks polished and sophisticated (think Pierce Brosnan, George Clooney, Hugh Jackman, and yes, Frasier and Niles). I like seeing men in suits, with CLEAN nails (they don't need to be professionally manicured, just clean and neat). There is a fine line between too manly and too girly. Most of the men that I like best are quite able to work on a car, get their hands dirty, fix things around the house, etc., but also are willing to clean up and look nice when the situation is appropriate. Of course, a simple pair of jeans and a decent shirt are just fine for many occasions.


Men who take no thought to how they dress, what they look like, how they smell, how dirty their nails are, how much hair is sprouting out their nose, ears, eyebrows, etc. are a complete turn-off to me. I'm also not a big fan of a lot of chest hair - for me, the less the better. I have no preference on clean-shaven vs. facial hair - it just depends on what looks best on him.


Personal hygiene is important, and looking and feeling comfortable in dress slacks, dressy, high quality polo shirts or button downs and nice shoes is something that always attracts me to a man. Cologneis also a big plus.


I think POLISH is the key word here; how polished is he in terms of hygiene and wardrobe? Not at all, just right, or too much? That's the bottom line, and everyone draws that line in a different place.