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I'm a single mom to a 3 yr old and do not have alot of options for babysitters, if I'm lucky I can date once a week..so my problem is how do I keep my options open and see whats out there when I can only fit in one date a week?

I work full time also..and I'd love to be able to accept and set up at least a couple a week so I can basically not pass up potential dates, but with only being able to go on one date a week, it's hard not to, I feel like I am being to selective for this reason, because no one is going to be willing to wait for me to fit another one into my schedule upon asking me to go out, so I am left with feeling like I am passing up some possibly good dates while I am going on others as I can..if this makes any sense,lol

I find myself being too selective also, although I like the convenience and good things about eharmony and online dating, I tend to be more picky because when I do get several requests for communication, I try to narrow them down being that I dont have the time or babysitter optionsto go on several dates a week and find out whats out there..basically,..so I could be passing up several potential matches in the meantime

I have looked into finding more options for a sitter but that gets expensive too, I am so ready to find someone but if I have these limited options..I feel that I might be stuck in an online dating rut and just be another profile on the site forever..

any advice is appreciated..thanks!
- March 29th, 2008, 06:13 am
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Ditto for me! I'd love the comments too! Same situation, only a five year old. Also, getting sitters takes time and coordination, so it limits the spontaneous lifestyle we might also enjoy. Planning for a sitter is crucial, and it takes coordination, so if you can't find one in two days time prior to when they'd like to meet up - POOF! The guy loses interest... responses to us both would be great!
- April 1st, 2008, 08:31 pm
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For Christina512 & Gr8Catch...

Neither one of you is THE ONLY SINGLE MOM without a partner in the neighborhood, correct?

Then why not set up a network of Mom's who wanna date...but need a sitter. Byleaving the kiddoes with someone you trust (and this person could be either male or female)...you've got the option of dating someone special without worrying if your sitter is reliable or not!

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- April 2nd, 2008, 10:03 am
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I'm a single mom out dating, too. What I do is arrange lunch dates! I've already got a sitter while I'm at work, I get an hour for lunch. Why not make use of that time to get in a meal -and- a date? ^_^ Works for me! Then I get my one-night-a-weekend-mom-can-you-watch-your-grandkid date as well.

Argytunes had a great suggestion as well. If you don't know any of the local single moms already, go out there and meet them. Not only will you be expanding your dating options, but you'll be improving your social connections as well. Best of luck!
- April 2nd, 2008, 12:21 pm
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Well, I'm a single dad - of three. My children have always lived with me full time.When my wife left the marriage back in January of '98, my children were 9, 7, and 2.I was lucky to have family in the area if I wanted a babysitter, though I could have asked my ex wife as well (which I would have done had hell been freezing over). We had no formal visitation schedule, and my kidsvery rarely overnighted with my ex. Even with some resourses to call upon as babysitters, I found that it just got to be too difficult to have a relationship AND raise my kids the way I thought they should be raised. So, for about 4 years or so, I don't think I dated at all. Eventually I joined some dating sites, but found the most pleasure I got came from women who I really wasn't interested in because they were simply too far away, butwho were a lot of fun to talk to. So, my suggestion would be to approach any relationship very casually. Don't be so set on finding someone that you try to force it, and end up neglecting your kid in the meantime.Trust me,your "perfect" man isn't going to pass you by. The casual relationships are much less stressful, and one could lead to something very good eventually.Take it slow.
- April 2nd, 2008, 07:32 pm
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Maybe if a guy is truly interested in you, he will understand and adjusts such as talk on phone or via internet for the 6 days and meet up once a week. When a man truly wants something, he will make it work by hook or by crook.





If a guy minds that, then maybe that's good as well. It's sorta like weeding out what you don't want in the first place anyway, right? But that's just my 2 cents' worth.





If he has kids as well, maybe a date including kids such as a day in the park would help as well. I'm not sure, haven't tried it. LOL
- April 13th, 2009, 06:05 pm
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