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how unacceptable is the body type on the right?





- January 13th, 2009, 02:25 pm
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That depends on the man really. I'm about 6'2 200 lbs, and I think her figure would be the outer boundaries of what I'd consider acceptable. My ex-wife was about 5'7 170, and she wore it well. It's not always how much you weigh, but how that weight is distributed.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:28 pm
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She looks cute I think.


At the risk of being thrown rottentomatoes by some ladies here...I'd say 180 is very acceptable (and she does look cute), but 160 is perfect.


How tall is the woman in that pic? Would be cool to do the pic in 15lbsincrements/decrements.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:37 pm
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From a health and body composition perspective...my estimate would be the woman on the left would be classified as obsese and while the woman on the right is obviously leaner than the other woman she might still be classified as overweight.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:52 pm
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DennisWisconsin wrote :

It is totally in the eye of the beholder... Why don't people understand that. I doesn't matter how much you weigh or how much hair a person has, someone out there will accept you. Not everyone, but someone. My personal preference is mine. Not Py's, not tbsq's. Sheesh...


The question that you should be asking is how much low self-esteem is acceptable.
You're right, there's someone for everyone. I think the frustration comes in when someone's options may not be as extensive as others. If you're, say, the woman on the left, there may indeed be someone for you, but you may have to look longer and harder to find that person than the woman on the right.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:58 pm
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tbesq wrote :

DennisWisconsin wrote :


It is totally in the eye of the beholder... Why don't people understand that. I doesn't matter how much you weigh or how much hair a person has, someone out there will accept you. Not everyone, but someone. My personal preference is mine. Not Py's, not tbsq's. Sheesh...


The question that you should be asking is how much low self-esteem is acceptable.


You're right, there's someone for everyone. I think the frustration comes in when someone's options may not be as extensive as others. If you're, say, the woman on the left, there may indeed be someone for you, but you may have to look longer and harder to find that person than the woman on the right.
well, i didn't want to pull a fast one but my point was that if someone says they weight 180 pounds in their profile, they aren't going to get much response because the number sounds like it means more than it really does. People see a number and stop.
- January 13th, 2009, 03:03 pm
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Call me a pig, but the woman on the left I would not even consider. The woman on the right is "hippy" and I would consider her depending on her personality/disposition.
- January 13th, 2009, 03:06 pm
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The animation on the right is at my upper limits on the weight. She would be cute though. I prefer 100-140lbs. I don't think I've ever dated anyone over 160lbs for anything more than a couple hours.


At 300 pounds the woman on the left would not have ankles. I would expect to see some serious cankles going on. That doesn't seem to be a very accurate photo of a 300 pound woman. A side view my better show the true weight.
- January 13th, 2009, 03:11 pm
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I don't accept women over 179.58 pounds. Both chicks lose. Sorry.


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P.S. Dennis has your answer.
- January 13th, 2009, 03:21 pm
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The picture on the left is what I would classify as not respecting herself (realizing there is a point where being overweight becomes not respecting oneself, and if medical conditions are not causing this).


On the right I could deal with, provided they did not represent themself as thin and athletic.


In remembering our society has become an obese society, the question of how much obesity can be tolerated is, and will remain an individual domain.
- January 13th, 2009, 03:22 pm
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