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my girlfriends and i have a theory that men prefer school teachers and nurses. i've definitely been in situation where i try to explain what i do for a living and it's met by confused looks or total disinterest. but i've actually never lied and said"i'm a school teacher". however, i have plenty of friends who do tell people they meet (online and real life) that they do something more nurturing. and it seems to generate lots more interest.

has anyone else seen/felt this? or are we meeting non-representative guys?
- March 26th, 2008, 06:36 pm
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NO, I do not find that. I am a teacher and I don't get that. However, maybe the men you guys are meeting are looking for a "mommy" so just be glad they move on.
- March 26th, 2008, 06:59 pm
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I've never dated a teacher and I have only dated one nurse, but I would probably date a nurse again. To me, it has a lot to do with the amount of school someone had to get through and then performing on a job where their success relied mostly upon themselves, not a collective of people. The nurse I did date was really intelligent and had a great deal of initiative. Unfortunately, I had to move away.
- March 26th, 2008, 07:06 pm
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I have been matched with both a teacher and a nurse on EH, and dated both. The teacher tried way too hard to prove that she was an intellectual, which she was horrible at doing it. She seemed very insecure in the fact that she operated at a "kindergarten level" for her job, and it showed. Perhaps this was just in my head, but she sort of talked to me a bit like I was a small child. I only went on one date with the nurse, but she was mind numbingly uninteresting. Her whole life seemed to revolve around the fact that she was a nurturer, and she tried really hard to convince me that she was in fact a nurturer.

So personally, those two occupations don't sit too well with me according to my experiences as of now. Personal preference, but I would imagine that most guys would be turned off by those types...purely speculation and extrapolation.
- March 26th, 2008, 07:11 pm
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This is an interesting question. I've been a member for about 4 months and I'll bet almost half of my matches were nurses or teachers. I've begun to wonder about the answers I gave when I did my profile. Or maybe alot of teachers and nurses just don't get out that often! LOL.
- March 26th, 2008, 08:24 pm
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As a guy, I can tell you that I admire women who are in nurturing type professions, but let me alsotell ya, I've met a number of school teachers and nurses who did not fit my ideal of what people in such a profession would be like. So, while it does make a good initial impression, ultimately, I just like the woman to have a full-time job.And I don't like them to take themselves or their professions too seriously. Me, I just work for the federal govt., so I can hardly expect "my" women to do something great when all I have is a job basically (but it's honest work and hasmany benefits as jobs go).
- March 26th, 2008, 08:29 pm
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I really have no preference. It's funny you mention this because a large number of my eharmony matches are nurses, doctors, or teachers.
- March 26th, 2008, 09:50 pm
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Me personally, I actually do prefer nurses and schoolteachers. LOL But I thought it was more unique to my personality style and what I seek in relationships. I don't think it's indicative of every male. I started noticing a trend that I prefer nurses and teachers and thought maybe it's because my sisters are.......wait for it.......a nurse and a teacher. So maybe it was something I look for the way women can look for qualities of their father. I don't know.

In any case, my opinion would be that it's only the specific guys you've happened to run into. FWIW, I've dated a scientist that works for NASA, a smart IT specialist at Mayo Health Clinic, and lots of social workers. So I'm attracted to different people, but I hold a soft spot for nurses/teachers because I generalize them to be nurturing & caring people, which is what I generally prefer in a relationship.
- March 26th, 2008, 09:52 pm
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gotribe wrote :

I have been matched with both a teacher and a nurse on EH, and dated both. The teacher tried way too hard to prove that she was an intellectual, which she was horrible at doing it. She seemed very insecure in the fact that she operated at a "kindergarten level" for her job, and it showed. Perhaps this was just in my head, but she sort of talked to me a bit like I was a small child. I only went on one date with the nurse, but she was mind numbingly uninteresting. Her whole life seemed to revolve around the fact that she was a nurturer, and she tried really hard to convince me that she was in fact a nurturer.

So personally, those two occupations don't sit too well with me according to my experiences as of now. Personal preference, but I would imagine that most guys would be turned off by those types...purely speculation and extrapolation.
Hey, let's not judge an entire profession (or two!) on just one bad apple! Most of us nurses are nurturing by nature, but those of us who are confident in ourselves don't feel the need to prove it. In fact, most nurses I know are incredibly dedicated at work and can't wait to 'leave it at the door'. I think we all need to keep an open mind...
- March 27th, 2008, 03:23 am
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While I was active on eHarmony, it seemed that most of my matches were either educators or health care professionals of some sort--I chalked it up to some characteristic (or combination of characteristics) in me that tends to run in those professions. My girlfriend (whom I met through eH) is an optometrist.
- March 27th, 2008, 06:30 am
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