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Well let's see. You could meet me at the grocery store (Publix on south Orange Ave.) I stop in there a couple of times a week. You could meet me at my church at the Saturday evening service, but it is a very small church and we almost never have any guests. Every now and then you can find me at Home Depot or Lowes. I have never been approached by a women in any public place including in my younger days when I did go to bars/clubs.


But the best place to find me would be online.
- January 10th, 2009, 08:52 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

So you various people indicate that I could meet you at (insert your store, park, street, where ever).* So how many hours a day and how many days am I going to have to wait at this location before you come in?
EXACTLY!!! Or, the OTHER problem is this (and I gather Americans never do this, but Australians live a much more laid back lifestyle, so we do) - you are out of milk or ciggies, so you dash to the local milkbar in whatever is handy to throw on. A sarong, bare feet. The gym gear because you have a class in an hour anyway. No make-up, the hair in a ponytail - and THAT is the VERY time you almost trip over the most GORGEOUS looking guy on the planet.

Of course, you never see him again.
- January 10th, 2009, 08:54 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

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You'd probably find me in an outdoor cafe/bookstore, on a train or in an airport (when traveling), but I'd be reading a book, or doing something. I may look up sometimes, and say hello to the person next to me. Sometimes I'll put aside the book or laptop and actually talk to the person, if they seem interesting.


A man would have to be brave enough to interrupt me, if I were reading or working on the computer. Most people are not likely to do that. Or heck, join me at the table, and find a reason to ask me a question


Would you really want someone to interrupt you while you were reading or working on your computer?
If it meant that I wouldn't wake up alone the next morning........................ YES, PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- January 10th, 2009, 08:56 pm
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So you various people indicate that I could meet you at (insert your store, park, street, where ever). So how many hours a day and how many days am I going to have to wait at this location before you come in?

EXACTLY!!! Or, the OTHER problem is this (and I gather Americans never do this, but Australians live a much more laid back lifestyle, so we do) - you are out of milk or ciggies, so you dash to the local milkbar in whatever is handy to throw on. A sarong, bare feet. The gym gear because you have a class in an hour anyway. No make-up, the hair in a ponytail - and THAT is the VERY time you almost trip over the most GORGEOUS looking guy on the planet. Of course, you never see him again.

A certain species, Urbanus[/i] Americanus Infantileus[/i], is known to display odd attire in public, notably trousers hung low upon his waist, such that his underwears are visible. Whether females swoon is undetermined at this time.

- January 10th, 2009, 09:05 pm
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marthak wrote :

Wow, what's with all these assumptions that women are sick of getting hit on? Would those women please speak up? I think they must be far more rare than men assume. Getting sick ofguys who can't take a hint is one thing, but the comments here indicate that mentake that as a reason to never approach any woman, ever.
Women don't like to be hit on by someone who they don;t consider to be wroth their time. They are perfectly OK to be hit on by someone who they find attractive but are unable to approach because of insecurities (what if he turns her down? gasp!).
- January 10th, 2009, 09:09 pm
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I'm very curious to hear where men hang out too?
With their buddies.
- January 10th, 2009, 09:10 pm
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In my experience, university was great (but you have to be in school.) It had by far the largest number of compatible people, and was the most conducive place to being open and approachable.

Second is the workplace - when I worked where there was a “critical mass” of educated young people. I don’t have this anymore, sadly. Some people frown on this, but provided I saw marriage potential I would absolutely date a co-worker.

Third would be the gym. I know many people don’t like this, but I think it is a great strategy for women, especially.

After that, for me it drops off totally to random public encounters, like a woman who says something in the grocery store, which may or may not be an invitation to talk. (This is rare for me.) My hobbies have tended to be very male, so not an option. (Though I think male-dominated hobbies are another great strategy for women.) I would think your dancing would be great, but I’ve never been part of that, so I don’t really know.

My last suggestion is to be generally a social person, and try to develop friendships with more people- particularly married couples (I firmly believe that people attract like-minded people, and you want to surround yourself with people who embody the qualities you’d seek in a mate.)

Depending on where you live, cultural institutions often have “single’s nights,” which in cities may be a good option (high cost, though.) It can seem tacky to do this only for the single’s night though, but to show up then when people already know you makes women much more comfortable.

I have a lot of "traditionally masculine" hobbies. Like flyfishing, hiking, and home improvement.





Guys in those venues just tend to see me -- as one of the guys .





- January 10th, 2009, 09:26 pm
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D_Lion wrote :

Aussie_Devilette wrote :


Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :


So you various people indicate that I could meet you at (insert your store, park, street, where ever). So how many hours a day and how many days am I going to have to wait at this location before you come in?

EXACTLY!!! Or, the OTHER problem is this (and I gather Americans never do this, but Australians live a much more laid back lifestyle, so we do) - you are out of milk or ciggies, so you dash to the local milkbar in whatever is handy to throw on. A sarong, bare feet. The gym gear because you have a class in an hour anyway. No make-up, the hair in a ponytail - and THAT is the VERY time you almost trip over the most GORGEOUS looking guy on the planet. Of course, you never see him again.

A certain species, Urbanus[/i] Americanus Infantileus[/i] , is known to display odd attire in public, notably trousers hung low upon his waist, such that his underwears are visible. Whether females swoon is undetermined at this time.

Urbanus Americanus Infantileus engages in an often successful mating dance. When he becomes attracted to a female of his species, usually Urbanus Americanus Infantileus Lowriseiosis , he walks in front of her, reaches behind his shirt to scratch his back, and reveals his undergarments. When the Lowriseiosis is interested, she then pretends to drop something, bends over, and reveals her delicates which are held together by a mere thread and often adorned with a butterfly or some other flashy or colorful jewel.
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Gals, never approach a guy in a gym if the guy is serious about being in the gym.
- January 10th, 2009, 09:54 pm
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Guys in those venues just tend to see me -- as one of the guys .




What do you expect?


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- January 10th, 2009, 09:55 pm
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