Women and men okay with a height difference?


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my5cents is offline my5cents Post #1  January 8,2009, 6:00pm
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I might be hit over the head for bringing this one up, but I'm a taller woman and I do wear heels putting me at least at 6 feet to over 6 feet depending on heel height.

Lately I've been matched with a lot of guys who are about 2-3 inches shorter than me (this is without me wearing heels), and I am wondering if there are any ladies out there who have gotten over the "height" thing. The guys seem to have no problem with the height since they want to start communication. I have never dated anyone shorter than me and typically don't like to. It makes me feel like I'm in the dominant role (just personal opinion) since I'm looking down.

I just don't want to go on a date and find that I can't get over this height thing. These guys seem great and many people have reminded me that great things come in small packages.
I guess I'm trying to convince myself to go out with a shorter man and see where it goes from there. Any input, stories, etc. would help.
 
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I think it would be cool to date a woman that stood 6' tall in heels...then we'd see eye to eye...lol.
 
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My5cents, I am a shorter guy (5ft 8in), and I would have no problem dating a woman who happens to be taller than I am. I do, however, understand that it takes a very comfortably secure woman for it to work. I also understand that it is a matter of physical preference. Some women just prefer taller men, and I'm not sure if a preference is a choice. I think you have to ask yourself whether or not you are basing your decision about dating a shorter man on an internal or external standard of conduct. Is the "height thing" based upon the possible reactions from friends or, God forbid, strangers (external standard), or do you find yourself truly attracted to a particuliar shorter man? (internal standard). In either case, I think you ought to heistate dating a shorter man unless you are cerrtain that you can enter into a relationship without height being a factor. I wish you good luck!
 
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In my experience it is the short (5'4" and under) girls that have a phobia about height.


At 6 feet you are a very tall woman and if you restrict your dating to guys who are say 6'3" and over you are going to be somewhat limited in available guys. I am very short and while I have dated two girls who were in your height range I prefer girls who are within a couple of inches of my height. I don't think of who is dominant because of height. A relationship should be a partnership not someone who is dominant and someone who is submissive.


The reason I prefer to date girls that are approximately my same height is a physical comfort factor. If you hug no ones face is in the others chest, if you kiss no one has to bend way over, you can spoon either way, etc.
 
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I am 5'10", flat-footed. I tend to go for the taller guys. It's just natural. However, my ex-husband was about 2 inches shorter than me. He claimed that it didn't bother him...yet would get upset if I wore heels. I understand now that it was just him, but I am leary about dating shorter guys because of it. Was it really just him?


Men say that women are the ones who are hung-up on the height issue. But I think it works both ways. They can't help how tall they are, and neither can I.


I do believe that you have to get to know a person first. But I would be very uncomfortable going out with a man more than2-3 inches shorter than me.
 
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In my experience it is the short (5'4" and under) girls with the height phobia.


Being a 6 foot tall woman, restricting your dating to guys 6'3" and taller is going to restrict the available guys.
 
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Hi, I'm a 5'9" tall woman who has always had a thing for shorter guys....much shorter, 5'3" and I love it!!! It makes me feel fabulous being the taller one. And the short guys that I've dated have had no problem at all being shorter than me...in fact, I think they quite enjoy it. So, my advice is go for it...have fun with it and if it just doesn't work for you, then go back to the tall fellas!!
 
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I am 5' 8 and very attracted to a man 5'5" at work. If he wanted to date I wouldn't hestitate. He is so adorable. Besides I have long legs and to get right down to it our torsos are about the same size. When I sit down we are at eye level. It doesn't hurt to just have a date so I say go for it but we each have to decide what we are comfortable with. I think that is what counts. What is right for each of us only we know.
 
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m8se69,421198 wrote :

I am 5'10", flat-footed. I tend to go for the taller guys. It's just natural. However, my ex-husband was about 2 inches shorter than me. He claimed that it didn't bother him...yet would get upset if I wore heels. I understand now that it was just him, but I am leary about dating shorter guys because of it. Was it really just him?


Men say that women are the ones who are hung-up on the height issue. But I think it works both ways. They can't help how tall they are, and neither can I.


I do believe that you have to get to know a person first. But I would be very uncomfortable going out with a man more than2-3 inches shorter than me.
I agree. I do think there are men hung up on the height issue as well. In fact, I think many (not all) taller men have more of a problem with the issue than shorter men. Similiarly, It'sbeen my experience that shorter women seem, in many cases, to have less flexibility regarding height than their taller sisters. A woman 5'10", for example, typically will date a man the same height or slightly taller. Conversely, a 5'5" woman usually wants a man at least a few inches taller than she is.
 
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