inexperienced is offline inexperienced Post #1  March 24,2008, 11:16pm
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I am 27, and have very little experience dating. Truth be told, I've been on one "date" a couple of years ago, but it didn't proceed beyond that. Mostly, I don't get out much, and so don't meet very many potential guys to date. And the few that have asked were not compatible - I didn't even see the possibilty of being friends.

How do I handle to inevidentable questions about my past dating life? On the one hand, I want to be honest and upfront. But this is kinda awkward...

Suggestions on how to handle this?
 
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argytunes is offline argytunes Post #2  March 25,2008, 12:45pm
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Why even bother addressing ANY questions? You're receiving attention from a man you'd like to know better...so ask questions about HIM! Usually, mens responses are a good indicator of how you'll be treated in the future?

With every new person you're matched with...you can vary your approach. This way...you'll become more in sync and hopefully, IN HARMONY, with the object of your affection! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img]

In the meantime...why not learn to "network and circulate yourself" a little? You'd be amazed at the number of people you'll meet by taking an enrichment class, doing some volunteer/charity work, or even attending a Saturday night church supper once in a while!

GOOD LUCK!

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inexperienced, wrote :

How do I handle to inevidentable questions about my past dating life? On the one hand, I want to be honest and upfront. But this is kinda awkward...
I don't think it should be embarassing, at 27 or 30 or 34, to not have dated much in the past--some have, some haven't. I'm 34 now, and just with my first girlfriend for the last few months. There's no need to proactively offer the information unless you think it's relevant, but be honest if asked.
 
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I would answer with I've been on a few dates and leave it at that.

A funny answer would be "including you, two".

This is an easy question. Trust me, a date can ask much more difficult questions.
 
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How about, 'It's been a while since I last dated, but I'm now looking forward to meeting fun, interesting new people?'
 
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If the subject about past relationships came up, I'd simply say something to the affect of "I've dated some, but haven't really clicked with anyone yet." I probably wouldn't volunteer that I've only ever been on one date, as I think it would make someone wonder "hmm, what's wrong with her." And fact is, it sounds like you've had the opportunity to date multiple times, but simply didn't take them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should lie, but sometime it might be best to be a bit vague. Let the guy see who you are without a preconceived notion based on yourvery limiteddating past.
 
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inexperienced, wrote :

I am 27, and have very little experience dating. Truth be told, I've been on one "date" a couple of years ago, but it didn't proceed beyond that. Mostly, I don't get out much, and so don't meet very many potential guys to date. And the few that have asked were not compatible - I didn't even see the possibilty of being friends.

How do I handle to inevidentable questions about my past dating life? On the one hand, I want to be honest and upfront. But this is kinda awkward...

Suggestions on how to handle this?
I have just learned not to ask a girl this question because many girls just refuse to answer it honestly. Many times I've been told off-hand that I was the first one they had dated when I obviously was not. I don't think you really owe an honest answer to this question so I would not worry about it. That doesn't mean you should be abrasive about your answer though -- just make a quick joke of it. Definately do not show insecurity about the subject either.
 
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Watching Cold Blue 2night a doctor states, I am a doctor becuz I like the challange of a saving a life on near death. OMG how do these nurses and doctors do it? One must be so strong.I cry when I watch these shows. Life is precious.
 
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cuteBut4u,373575 wrote :

Watching Cold Blue 2night a doctor states, I am a doctor becuz I like the challange of a saving a life on near death. OMG how do these nurses and doctors do it? One must be so strong.I cry when I watch these shows. Life is precious.
I'm confused. This response doesn't seem to relate to the thread -- why resurrect a dead thread from 9 monhs ago and then not even address the topic?
 
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neardc,373582 wrote :

I'm confused. This response doesn't seem to relate to the thread -- why resurrect a dead thread from 9 monhs ago and then not even address the topic?

Heavy drinking?
 
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