Songryder is offline Songryder Post #11  December 9,2008, 1:55am
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I am 27, and have very little experience dating. Truth be told, I've been on one "date" a couple of years ago, but it didn't proceed beyond that. Mostly, I don't get out much, and so don't meet very many potential guys to date. And the few that have asked were not compatible - I didn't even see the possibilty of being friends.


How do I handle to inevidentable questions about my past dating life? On the one hand, I want to be honest and upfront. But this is kinda awkward...


Suggestions on how to handle this?
I agree with Argytunes. Anyone really interested in you isn't going to want to ask those kinds of questions until perhaps much later on in the relationship. Qeustions like this are inappropriate for first dates or any date for that matter. It's nobody's business how many men you have or haven't been with. It's like they're asking how many notches you have on your bedpost. Who cares!


Anyone who is rude enough to ask questions like this isn't worth going out with.
 
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A sarcastic answer: "well I guess more than you since everybody knows NOT to ask that on first dates"

An intriguing answer: Laugh, a big hearty laugh and then just wink. Trust me they will never ask again, it scares the heck out of them.

The honest truth: "to be sincere I think that is an awkward question and until we get to know each other I don't see 1) the point of it or 2) what we will be gaining from the discussion"

But be not afraid, a girlfriend last year texted me and said "I am too old for this, I am 27 and this is really my first date!", funny I kept that text and she just got married two months ago with that dude. Note she did go to other 3-4 dates with different people, but this dude had her at hello and she did too! (they did also knew each other in high school, so not complete strangers)
 
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Manderava is offline Manderava Post #13  December 9,2008, 9:23am
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I never liked those types of questions because I don't like to base everything on the past and it's really supposed to be about the future.


If someone asks you something like that and you don't really want to talk about it, brush it off with 'oh, we can talk about that once we've gotten to know each other better.' It's totally legitimate to not want to discuss that when you first meet someone, and if they are nosy and push more then you wouldn't want to get to know them more anyways.
 
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If that is the hardest question you are asked, you have it made. Make light joke about it and answer honestly. Let your humor sparkle in your eyes and it will show him you have a lighter side and he will let go while lost in the sparkle.





If you go for the natural look, he will even admire the light blush of your cheeks, but mostly he will remember your honesty and respect it.
 
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neardc,373582 wrote :

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Watching Cold Blue 2night a doctor states, I am a doctor becuz I like the challange of a saving a life on near death. OMG how do these nurses and doctors do it? One must be so strong.I cry when I watch these shows. Life is precious.


I'm confused. This response doesn't seem to relate to the thread -- why resurrect a dead thread from 9 monhs ago and then not even address the topic?

I like to be different. It keeps people like you wondering how I think
 
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