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pukeko is offline pukeko Post #1  January 5,2009, 4:13pm
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last month, three guys i had dated initiated a reconnection. one was an ex-boyfriend. the second was a guy whom i met online and met in person once. the third was a guy whom i also met online but had phone conversation for over a year (he's from another state) and we met once. receiving an email from them made me sad because it reminds of the reason why we parted in the first place.it makes me think that people haven't gottenover you after months.i don't have any plans to reply to them.


if someone you had dated in the past come back to you, do you know how you would handle the return????
 
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Define "comes back to you".
 
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as in say after many many months of no contact all of a sudden say you get an email or call from them.
 
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You once dated this person. For some reasons, you lost connection, ie he/she was not into you, you drove him/her away, she/he hated you, etc. Time flies, then all of the sudden you get a call or an email from them.


Howwould you handle this situation?
[*]Wouldyou get a butterfly? [*]Would you feel upset? Sad? Glad? [*]Wouldyou try to get a closure on whatever reason that led you apart? [*]Wouldyou ignore his/her inquiry? [*]Wouldyou try to be friend? [/list]

Would you know how to handle this?
 
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I could only wish, hope, and if I weren't a non-believer, pray that my long lost Asian Angel would make some kind of contact, any contact at all, with me after all that time!


I ACHE for her. And it wouldbring me great joy and comfortto just know that she is safe and sound, even if she wanted nothing else to do with me ever again.
 
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pukeko,415974 wrote :

last month, three guys i had dated initiated a reconnection. one was an ex-boyfriend. the second was a guy whom i met online and met in person once. the third was a guy whom i also met online but had phone conversation for over a year (he's from another state) and we met once. receiving an email from them made me sad because it reminds of the reason why we parted in the first place.it makes me think that people haven't gottenover you after months.i don't have any plans to reply to them.


if someone you had dated in the past come back to you, do you know how you would handle the return????
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Ultimately, it depends onwhat you want to do. If you don't want closure, friendship, or reconciliation ...that's easy, don't respond.


If you didn't get closure, this is a good time to get it, but don't have any hope that it will help ...or that you can even trust that they are giving you the truth. Getting closure is a slippery pig.


If you want to be friends, respond, but realize they are probably trying to reconcile or start something back up, so that's probably not going to work out for long.


If you want to attempt a reconciliation ...weeelll, this is where it gets sticky ...that may not be their intention at all. They may just be 'feeling you out' to see how attached you still are to them as a Plan B or just truly want to be friends (although very doubtful since they are guys).


Hey, nobody said it was easy. =)
 
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notamaninpower,416031 wrote :

I could only wish, hope, and if I weren't a non-believer, pray that my long lost Asian Angel would make some kind of contact, any contact at all, with me after all that time!


I ACHE for her. And it wouldbring me great joy and comfortto just know that she is safe and sound, even if she wanted nothing else to do with me ever again.
haha..funny that you capitalized Asian Angel. So heavenly. hehehe
 
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Gr8Guyn2008,416044 wrote :

pukeko,415974 wrote :


last month, three guys i had dated initiated a reconnection. one was an ex-boyfriend. the second was a guy whom i met online and met in person once. the third was a guy whom i also met online but had phone conversation for over a year (he's from another state) and we met once. receiving an email from them made me sad because it reminds of the reason why we parted in the first place.it makes me think that people haven't gottenover you after months.i don't have any plans to reply to them.


if someone you had dated in the past come back to you, do you know how you would handle the return????


Yes, BTDT
can we speak in English?? I don't know what BTDT means. *smile*
 
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BikerBeagle,416049 wrote :

Ultimately, it depends onwhat you want to do. If you don't want closure, friendship, or reconciliation ...that's easy, don't respond.


If you didn't get closure, this is a good time to get it, but don't have any hope that it will help ...or that you can even trust that they are giving you the truth. Getting closure is a slippery pig.


If you want to be friends, respond, but realize they are probably trying to reconcile or start something back up, so that's probably not going to work out for long.


If you want to attempt a reconciliation ...weeelll, this is where it gets sticky ...that may not be their intention at all. They may just be 'feeling you out' to see how attached you still are to them as a Plan B or just truly want to be friends (although very doubtful since they are guys).


Hey, nobody said it was easy. =)

yeah. it's not easy. i wonder whypeople would go through that trouble.
 
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