aurora7 is offline aurora7 Post #1  December 20,2008, 10:04pm
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One of my matches has the following in his must have:


Shared Politics...... I must have someone who has political beliefs which are the same or similar to my own.


Parenting Style...... I must have someone who shares my views about how to raise children.


What does this tell you?


It bothers me. First of all, he didn't state in his statement of what is his political beliefs and his parenting styles. How would I know whether mine fit his? Also, people's opinion change over time, even if two person have same view today, it doesn't mean that they would have the same view tomorrow. Does it mean that we could me a match today, not a match tomorrow simply because I have a different view on some political issue? How could one possibly be having same politcal view ALL THE TIME? hhhmmm....
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #2  December 20,2008, 10:22pm
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The must have/can't stand statements leave a lot to be desired...lol. They give you a sense of priorities, but some of them can be nearly impossible to interpret with any certainty. These statements could either mean that he has very strong and rigid views and only feels compatible with others who share them, or that he is looking for someone with similar values. If his views are extreme, that is one thing; if they are moderate, that is another... If he seems interesting otherwise, you can ask him to clarify his responses when you get to a later stage of communication to see what he's thinking...
 
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