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rogerlee5, wrote :

Ladies.. This small questionnaire was a part of the "when to call" thread.. But, it was posted toward the end and modded for fourteen hours, hence it was dumped back in the middle of the thread.. I don't believe it received a lot of exposure, or you saw it and didn't want to answer.. So, if you might be so kind.. Feel free to answer with a simple 1 or 2 or elaborate if you wish..





Ladies, we have heard about the great ones where you can't wait for do-overs... And then, there are the ones that you are ready to toss, should they call again, but how about the ones teetering on the edge... The, " , he was a nice guy and we had a good time, but I just don't know,, Hmmmmm.. Yea, I might go out with him again, but I'm just not sure,," date.... I would guess that there are a large percentage that fall into that category.. Two scenarios..





1) He calls the next day and tells you what an outstanding time he had last night and he really wants to get together again and maybe, would you want to do something Saturday,,





2) He calls on Wedsnesday and mentions he had a good time and if you were free on Saturday night, there is a good (fill in the blank)..





And you ARE free Saturday night





Which one is likely to get the date??
Dear Rogerlee,





If your hypothetical lady is a true lady and has an interest in you as well...#1 would be a winner. From the voice of experiece, I always greatly appreciate a gentleman who is straightforward and upfront and NOT afraid to show his true feelings. This approach would show me that you have a genuine interest in me and really enjoyed my company the day before. It works for me :-)





If you choose option #2 where you call on Wednesday and only casually mention that "you had a good time" I (personally) would think that you are not all that genuinely interested and eventhough you may get a second date with me, I may be inclined to be more withdrawn and not so willing to put my heart out there for you to see. What's called only a "warm reception".





The best advice I can give you is to NOT follow all those so called "rules" and DON"T play games. Just be your self and don't be afraid to open up. If you're interested in her...let her know. Life and love are too precious to be taken lightly. They must be embraced with a passion like each day may be the last. As a woman who has lost the greatest love of my life when God took him from me...I tell you this from the bottom of my heart...don't wait.





Best wishes to you and I hope you find that special lady to warm your heart.





Sincerely,


Shelley
- December 20th, 2008, 04:48 am
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chichigirl wrote :
If your hypothetical lady is a true lady and has an interest in you as well...#1 would be a winner. From the voice of experiece, I always greatly appreciate a gentleman who is straightforward and upfront and NOT afraid to show his true feelings. This approach would show me that you have a genuine interest in me and really enjoyed my company the day before. It works for me :-)





If you choose option #2 where you call on Wednesday and only casually mention that "you had a good time" I (personally) would think that you are not all that genuinely interested and eventhough you may get a second date with me, I may be inclined to be more withdrawn and not so willing to put my heart out there for you to see. What's called only a "warm reception".





The best advice I can give you is to NOT follow all those so called "rules" and DON"T play games. Just be your self and don't be afraid to open up. If you're interested in her...let her know. Life and love are too precious to be taken lightly. They must be embraced with a passion like each day may be the last. As a woman who has lost the greatest love of my life when God took him from me...I tell you this from the bottom of my heart...don't wait.





Best wishes to you and I hope you find that special lady to warm your heart.





Sincerely,


Shelley

Roger - take note of what Shelley says if this is more than a hypothetical question for you. Just be sure to strike that balance of being "a gentleman who is straightforward and upfront and NOT afraid to show his true feelings" versus sounding like you are going to be calling 10 times a day for the next month then disappear!
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I HATE rules! But I dislike game-playing even more. I'd go with #1 because I also like a straight-forward guy. If he's interested, he's interested. If he's not, he's not. But I am going to put my disclaimer in and say that I am still single at almost 40, and I don't do much dating because of the mine fields out there. It is easier to hang out with friends than go out on a date. Too much analyzing!!!! I just like to go out, enjoy some one's company, and if there are sparks, there are sparks! Go out again and again, hopefully,until you end up in a relationship or you run into a dealbreaker. No sparks, he ends up in the FRIEND zone!!!! It's kind of like the TWILIGHT ZONE--way out there!
- December 20th, 2008, 05:09 am
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Aussie_Devilette wrote :

chichigirl wrote :
If your hypothetical lady is a true lady and has an interest in you as well...#1 would be a winner.* From the voice of experiece, I always greatly appreciate a gentleman who is straightforward and upfront and NOT afraid to show his true feelings.* This approach would show me that you have a genuine interest in me and really enjoyed my company the day before.* It works for me :-)


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If you choose option #2 where you call on Wednesday and only casually mention that "you had a good time" I (personally) would think that you are not all that genuinely interested and eventhough you may get a second date with me, I may be inclined to be more withdrawn and not so willing to put my heart out there for you to see.* What's called only a "warm reception".


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The best advice I can give you is to NOT follow all those so called "rules" and DON"T play games.* Just be your self and don't be afraid to open up.* If you're interested in her...let her know.* Life and love are too precious to be taken lightly.* They must be embraced with a passion like each day may be the last.* As a woman who has lost the greatest love of my life when God took him from me...I tell you this from the bottom of my heart...don't wait.


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Best wishes to you and I hope you find that special lady to warm your heart.


*


Sincerely,


Shelley

Roger - take note of what Shelley says if this is more than a hypothetical question for you. Just be sure to strike that balance of being "a gentleman who is straightforward and upfront and NOT afraid to show his true feelings" versus sounding like you are going to be calling 10 times a day for the next month then disappear!
Nope.. No hypothetical questions.. Just collecting data.. I don't want advice just honest answers to the question..
- December 20th, 2008, 05:18 am
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Roger - you are not going to write that Rule Book you just mentioned over yonder are you? *wink* "Just collecting data....."


I'm making it a personal objective to break EVERY "rule" I spot!! LOL Well, within reason. The "If it's not on,it's not on" one has to stay.
- December 20th, 2008, 05:24 am
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Which one is likely to get the date??
"Dear Rogerlee,


Best wishes to you and I hope you find that special lady to warm your heart.



Sincerely,


Shelley"



Shelley..

Thank you for your heartfelt advice.. Believe me, it was appreciated..

Roger
- December 20th, 2008, 05:31 am
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Aussie_Devilette wrote :

Roger - you are not going to write that Rule Book you just mentioned over yonder are you? *wink* "Just collecting data....."


I'm making it a personal objective to break EVERY "rule" I spot!!* LOL Well, within reason.* The "If it's not on,*it's not on" one has to stay.
no book, just a secret theory.. oooooo.. that struck the curiosity bone.. why is it "secret??" because if you knew, it may skew the data..
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So what I read from the ladies replies is that I have a 50 - 50 chance of screwing it up if I call next day or call after a couple of days.
- December 20th, 2008, 09:18 am
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So what I read from the ladies replies is that I have a 50 - 50 chance of screwing it up if I call next day or call after a couple of days.
Isn't it funny how each person wants to be treated individually. I guess that's why we are individuals. I recommend you go with what you feel is right. If she's into you, she probably won't really care when you call as long as you call. However, the time frame is important. If you call a month later, well........


I think sometimes, people read too much into the time frame thing. If I am interested, I'd call. If I'm not interested, I won't call. I don't go looking at, well, it took him two days to call so I better hold off and not talk to him for two days. IMHO, these games are for kids.
- December 20th, 2008, 09:38 am
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In all politeness, I would accept the first guy. I believe in follow through. Thats just me. I would also take on the second guy, with the understanding that its causual. If just happened to think of me, than I may take on the challenge. The play it cool guy always makes my head turn, but also keeps me in angst. I dont know about anyone else. But thats me.
- December 20th, 2008, 09:39 am
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