Dating/Relationships at work: Where do you draw the line?


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SpringfieldMark is offline SpringfieldMark Post #11  August 14,2008, 9:23am
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Pretty much have to agree with Niquegirl on this one. Flirty and casual dating is a big no for work. However, that does not mean that dating someone from work is locked out completly. If you get to know someone, become good friends, and then see there is a chance for more, then go for it. There are quite a few women at work that I could see myself dating, but most of it is in the fun, not much of a future wife, type of dating.


While it probably doesnt need to be said, you also need to make sure that if you do decide to date, that the person you are dating is either in a completly other department and preferably someone that is relative equal level as far as position and pay.
 
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Unless it is a really huge company where you can never run into each other during work hours I would never recommend it.


I used to work at a government facility with dozens of different companies involved and about 24,000 employees across the government and other companies. I would not have considered even dating someone that I met in that situation.
 
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My advice is usually that you shouldn't fish off the pier at work. Too much that can go wrong & in 30 years I only personally know of 1 couple that it worked out for & they had a lot of false starts.


I make it a point to stay professional at work & for those that I foster friendships with assure that I don't let it go in a different direction.
 
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What if one has been going out with a co-worker and it did not work out, wouldn't it be good to try and talk and work it out even if there is no more dating or any thing, so that there is uneasiness and stress between the two involved?

Or does it all depend on the people and how the relationship ended and what all happened?
 
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It's even doubly frustrating when it's someone in mgmt. You enjoy the mild flirtation, but progressing towards actual contact....that's a whole nother animal

I've dealt with that for some time now. Yes, they're single (divorced), but that's no deal. You're a subordinate, they're a superior. And I guess that doesn't really work. Of course, the workers up front knew the scoop long ago, and used to giggle like school girls about it. And that only added to the frustration.

While I don't mind innocent flirtation, it's horrible to cope with desiring someone you can't have, even if they ARE next to perfect for you.
 
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It would be okay in my opinion under some circumstances. For example as long as she wasn't my boss or I wasn't her boss at work and probably better if we worked in completely different departments.

When I worked at Wal-Mart I flirted a lot with the female cashiers and they flirted with me. I would have probably dated one if it came to that but that is different as it is Wal-Mart and not my career. If we hired a female software developer or another IT person who was female and I was single I wouldn't date her if that came up as we work in the same department and it could get complicated if things didn't work out.
 
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