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top 10 reasons women (or men for that matter) cheat:


1) Selfishness and immaturity
2) Selfishness and immaturity
3) Selfishness and immaturity
4) Selfishness and immaturity
5) Selfishness and immaturity
6) Selfishness and immaturity
7) Selfishness and immaturity
8) Selfishness and immaturity
9) Selfishness and immaturity
10) Selfishness and immaturity
 
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I will agree that there is no excuse when it comes to cheating. You don't do it. Period. No matter what reason one may come up with as justification for their actions - it is and always will be inexcusable. If your needs aren't being met, then get out of the relationship and find someone new later.


THAT SAID, if you are cheated on I think (in many cases, not all) that it would be foolish to simply say, "I was cheated on. The end of this relationship is completely his/her fault. I am not, at all to blame."


Personally I would want to try to discern what was lacking in the relationship, and what I could have done better to help both of our needs to be met. Affairs rarely spring up out of nowhere and most people don't go looking for one. Which isn't to say that the spouse or SO should blame themselves if their partner cheats. It just seems that it would be wise to try to understand what part you played in the end of the relationship.


This article is interesting because it doesn't simply say "Women (or men) cheat because they are immature and care for no one but themselves." It gives ten, for lack of a better word, understandable reasons why someone would quit trying to resist temptation.
 
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inlovewithhim2,382147 wrote :

WOW. I hope that this article is just a generalization of what this person is thinking, and not trying to pigeon- hole all women into this category. I was not brought up on this kind of crap, and I certainly wouldn't let my daughter's grow up to be like that at all, either. Whoever, winds up believing this is the truth, is in trouble, with a capital "T".


Please use some sense. That's all I am saying.
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Pos65,382158 wrote :

top 10 reasons women (or men for that matter) cheat:


1) Selfishness and immaturity
2) Selfishness and immaturity
3) Selfishness and immaturity
4) Selfishness and immaturity
5) Selfishness and immaturity
6) Selfishness and immaturity
7) Selfishness and immaturity
8) Selfishness and immaturity
9) Selfishness and immaturity
10) Selfishness and immaturity

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All 10 of these "reasons" fall under selfishness or immaturity. A mature person would TALK to their spouse/SO if any of these 10 appeared in their relationship. Selfishness is deciding what you are missing in a relationship is more important that what both of you might be missing in a relationship - and you want YOUR needs met - no matter the impact to anyone around you (spouse/SO, children).


Cheating is not the reason for the demise of the relationship, it's a symptom that something was already wrong. A mature person would try to figure out what's wrongand determine any potentialnext stepsINSTEAD OF involving a 3rd party.
 
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tbesq,382191 wrote :

inlovewithhim2,382147 wrote :


WOW. I hope that this article is just a generalization of what this person is thinking, and not trying to pigeon- hole all women into this category. I was not brought up on this kind of crap, and I certainly wouldn't let my daughter's grow up to be like that at all, either. Whoever, winds up believing this is the truth, is in trouble, with a capital "T".


Please use some sense. That's all I am saying.


Now you know how us men feel whenever this man-bashing bs comes up.
Men get bashed? Where? What thread??
 
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Pos65,382204 wrote :

tbesq,382191 wrote :


inlovewithhim2,382147 wrote :


WOW. I hope that this article is just a generalization of what this person is thinking, and not trying to pigeon- hole all women into this category. I was not brought up on this kind of crap, and I certainly wouldn't let my daughter's grow up to be like that at all, either. Whoever, winds up believing this is the truth, is in trouble, with a capital "T".


Please use some sense. That's all I am saying.


Now you know how us men feel whenever this man-bashing bs comes up.


Men get bashed? Where? What thread??
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lucky173,382112 wrote :

Well I also should have added that I think the one reason why people cheat is because they're too coward to speak up and address honestly what's going on for them in the relationship - to themselves, with their partner, whatever. Whether it's feeling bored, unfulfilled, not having needs met, having first been cheated on, etc. etc.


Speak up, spit it out, deal with it and move on together. If you can't move forward together, move forward apart. Cheating isn't the answer.
Thanks lucky173. You said everything that needs to be said about this. Other than that, the article was idiotic. I'll paraphrase the whole [waaaay too long] article in 2 sentences:


"Girls are conniving, manipulative, and possessive. If you don't give them everything they want all the time and make sure that their happiness is the point of your existance then they might cheat on you." The sad part is that many girls (and guys) do think that it's the job of their significant other to make them happy. That is foolish..


I'll add that if we consider a romantic relationship like this as an agreement between two people to be just with each other (a common definition), then cheating is in fact removing yourself from the relationship whether words are spoken or not.


Worse than cheaters are those who tolerate cheating.
 
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Just throwing this out there....For the people that have been cheated on, do you take any responsibility for your SO cheating onyou? Or is it just the cheater's fault?


I do not mean this as an accusation at anyone...I am just curious if people feelthat there is behaviour on their end or lack of behaviour on their end that could have led totheir partnerstraying??
 
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LizziePooh,382243 wrote :

Just throwing this out there....For the people that have been cheated on, do you take any responsibility for your SO cheating onyou? Or is it just the cheater's fault?


I do not mean this as an accusation at anyone...I am just curious if people feelthat there is behaviour on their end or lack of behaviour on their end that could have led totheir partnerstraying??

Cheating is a choice. A poor choice. No, I take no responsilbity for my exH deciding to cheat.


I take full responsiblity for my part of the demise of our marriage. But the cheating is all on him.


Let's sayI'm feeling unappreciated. Does his lack of appreciation for me mean that it's his fault I chose to find someone else instead of TALKING to him about it? If I chose to cheat instead of either tryiing to work things out or leave the relationship, then I am 100% to blame for that decision. There are other options. No one makes someone else cheat.
 
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