5 Terrible Conversation Enders

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SaturnInspiration is offline SaturnInspiration Post #11  January 9,2009, 3:58pm
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love2smiletoo,421921 wrote :

OK, I know this is a thoroughly old fashion idea but all yoursuggestions are based on a self centered, egotistical approach to having a conversation with someone. You know "It's all about ME and MY time." How about suggesting that you practice good listening skills, try to honestly related to what the other person is telling you, look for a real level of appreciation and trust the other person has placed in you.


After all, isn't this what you want them to be doing for you? I hear people all day talking"AT" each other and thinking about themself. Meeting another person and getting a little insight,(any part) beginning, middle or end of a conversation is suppose to be about the two of you.To end the conversation, if you have beenactually havingone with the other person is a simple; say,” Thank you" for their time and you will be giving their feelings, ideas ...etc. more thought.


By the way, thanks for listening to me here. Please try this good mannered approach, you may find yourself meeting and liking some really wonderful people you would have totally missed out on when it's all about you. Furthermore, they never really get a chance to get to know you.


Makes me smile to meet great people. ...... Love 2smiletoo
Thank you for your "old fashion" approach, It's quite refreshing to see and know that are people such as yourself out there and that I am not alone .
 
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love2smiletoo,421921 wrote :

OK, I know this is a thoroughly old fashion idea but all yoursuggestions are based on a self centered, egotistical approach to having a conversation with someone. You know "It's all about ME and MY time." How about suggesting that you practice good listening skills, try to honestly related to what the other person is telling you, look for a real level of appreciation and trust the other person has placed in you.


After all, isn't this what you want them to be doing for you? I hear people all day talking"AT" each other and thinking about themself. Meeting another person and getting a little insight,(any part) beginning, middle or end of a conversation is suppose to be about the two of you.To end the conversation, if you have beenactually havingone with the other person is a simple; say,” Thank you" for their time and you will be giving their feelings, ideas ...etc. more thought.


By the way, thanks for listening to me here. Please try this good mannered approach, you may find yourself meeting and liking some really wonderful people you would have totally missed out on when it's all about you. Furthermore, they never really get a chance to get to know you.


Makes me smile to meet great people. ...... Love 2smiletoo
Now, you're someone who looks behind the facade. You actually pay attention to what isn't meant to draw your attention. Very insightful of you, and very much on the mark. I applaud your way of thinking and expressing yourself. Just watch the spelling and typos. It was an excellent comment.
 
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What do you do when your conversation partner won't look you in the eye, or doesn't talk much?
 
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gr8guy,380217 wrote :

Why is it that all the women I meet look at me like the woman on the top of this article?
Perhaps you are not meeting the right women. Don't give up!
 
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So licking your palm and sliding it down the other persons cheek is a bad thing then? Hmph, who knew...
 
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Each of these five were the same "Excuse yourself politely"


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lilredhen,428871 wrote :

What do you do when your conversation partner won't look you in the eye, or doesn't talk much?
It depends... Are you on a date with this person? Do you have interest in keeping the conversation going or getting out of it? Between two people who are clicking conversation should flow pretty smooothly, but nervousness and other things may get in the way. If you want to get out of the conversation use one of the steps mentioned above: Exuse yourself politely. But if you want to keep things going, ask the person about him or herself. People LOVE to interest people with themselves so use that to your advantage, ask non-personal questions at first: "Where did you get those shoes?" or find something obscure about their jewelry, wadrobe or general outfit or appearance and inquire casually. I have found that playful teasing helps lighten the mood & opens the door during conversation with good-looking or extremely good-looking people, the better looking the person the greater the gibe. It really helps switch the nervousness and gets them talking, and if your jab is funny, it gets them laughing. I talk to A LOT of people every day, and I've found that a nuetral compliment followed by a funny casual crituque works best. For example "What's up with your beard?" or "What's up with that purse?" Find something even the slightest bit off and mention it with playful laughter and you're IN! Hope this helps -TKO
 
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ok. i hate it when people say or write "take care." the only time i find it acceptable is in an email from a customer service rep.
 
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Betania is offline Betania Post #19  January 27,2009, 10:44am
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Conversation enders are the reason that I've had the worst luck even getting relationships off the ground. I cannot believe just how rude most men have been to me, in demanding answers to questions they should never have asked a woman in the first place. Its not that they don't know better either. They pretend to be ignorant just in order to be 1st place big bullies with their over-personal interrogatories.
 
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The good thing about the older type phones back in the day; you know the ones that had the long cords on them. Is that you don't hear: " My battery is going dead. I'll call you back later".
 
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