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I won't judge women for using Google I guess. Safety should be more of a concern to you & your family if applicable.


I know that I prefer not to know things about my date until she tells me. If I were to find something interesting then I'd have to act like I had no prior knowledge.I guess that would be a test of my acting skills.
- December 13th, 2008, 11:53 pm
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No, I don't google a potential date. It seems a bit tight-azzed to me. I agree with the poster who said, "It's only a date."Going a step further, only a "potential" one at that!
- December 13th, 2008, 11:55 pm
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No, I don't google a potential date. It seems a bit tight-azzed to me. I agree with the poster who said, "It's only a date."Going a step further, only a "potential" one at that!
Yeah, it's only a date... but I think safety is the concern of many. You don't know if that person you're meeting is a stalker, rapist, murderer, thief, child molester, etc. You don't know if the picture they've posted or sent to you is really what they look like. You may find out something about them on Google that they didn't tell you. I know Googling someone seems a little unethical, but you never know who you're meeting online. Of course, regardless of whether you Google someone or not, it's wise to meet them in a public place. I'm not taking chances with my safety.


However, Ipractice Tae Kwon Do so I can take down any potential attacker. But, why put myself in that position to have to defend myself?
- December 14th, 2008, 12:05 am
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bigfincat wrote :

I won't judge women for using Google I guess. Safety should be more of a concern to you & your family if applicable.


I know that I prefer not to know things about my date until she tells me. If I were to find something interesting then I'd have to act like I had no prior knowledge.I guess that would be a test of my acting skills.
I am on Google a dozen times a day or more for many different reasons, so it just seems "normal" to me to search for someone's name and see what comes up. Honestly, I would have no problem at all telling a date that I had Googled him (or planned to). Nor would I have a problem with him Googling my name (he'll get some interesting hits if he does...lol). To me, it just doesn't seem like something that needs to be kept a secret.


I don't seeGoogle as a way to find out top secret info about someone, though, or incriminating evidence of some kind (that wouldn't be my intent). If that were my aim, I would hire an investigator (or at least use one of the paid services that gives you access to more information than you can find in the usual public record searches...).
- December 14th, 2008, 12:14 am
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pukeko, wrote :

Please be honest.
Perhaps you would like to filter the men you go on dates with... graciously, by conversing with them until you are feeling comfortable to do whatever. Dating is fun when you view it as dance between two people. Moving along with the other party to the natural rhythm and tempo. It allows you to learn about the other person organically rather than intrusively or by force. People have different personal boundaries and comfort levels, which should be respected, always.

- December 14th, 2008, 12:17 am
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Yes, I google my dates. I want to find out whether they have accomplished anything admirable. I google from top to bottom.
- December 14th, 2008, 12:17 am
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I have never googled a woman. I do offer enough informationabout myself if someone wantsto do a background check on me... Google, sex offender lists, court records, knock yourself out. I'm not offended.
- December 14th, 2008, 03:46 am
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AnnaLeigh wrote :


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AnnaLeigh wrote :


Absolutely! And I check Linked In.....


LinkedIn is a trustful source.But I would be sensitive with that.


I check Linked in to see if we are connected to anyone....


LinkedIn is a "user generated" source. That means my LinkedIn profile will say whatever I want it to say... Nothing trusted about that...
- December 14th, 2008, 06:06 am
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On occasion I google my date beforehand, just to see what's out there on her.


There's been a few times when I've used the reverse phone lookup to verify the phone location as well, but that's not used to find last name, only verify location.


It takes a few seconds, and is a quick check you can do on someone, so that's fine. It doesn't hurt anybody, and it's a safety measure as well.


I usually give my last name first to my match, so she can google me. I also mention "you can see from my results that I'm listed in playing in a chess tournament years ago, and that I'm on a list of eagle scouts".


Good times, good times.
- December 14th, 2008, 06:18 am
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Mr_Right wrote :

On occasion I google my date beforehand, just to see what's out there on her.


There's been a few times when I've used the reverse phone lookup to verify the phone location as well, but that's not used to find last name, only verify location.


It takes a few seconds, and is a quick check you can do on someone, so that's fine. It doesn't hurt anybody, and it's a safety measure as well.


I usually give my last name first to my match, so she can google me. I also mention "you can see from my results that I'm listed in playing in a chess tournament years ago, and that I'm on a list of eagle scouts".


Good times, good times.
Oh my.. I just goggle "Mr_Right" and didn't see any of that! Liar!!
- December 14th, 2008, 06:26 am
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