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Znayesh is offline Znayesh Post #21  December 13,2008, 6:39pm
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I check for legitimacy. I don't go PI or get into trying to find people who know them in order to make contact. More often, I have googled words/phrases used in their profile to see if they stole it or if they're scammers. The first match I got on EH was a scammer and when I googled the phrases he used, I found the same profile on different sites with different pictures/names.


I believe one must be wise and use the tools at your disposal in order to check any red flags you might suspect before meeting someone face-to-face you met online. If you find someone being completely dishonest in their representation of themself (like having multiple personas) use the cursory information to raise a concern with the dating site's match concern folks. They are trained to do a full search/check on anyone suspected of impropriety on their site. You don't have to gather all the information you cand find...just enough to corroborate your suspicion.


However, if what I find corroborates who they say they are, (i.e., published documents in their field) then I don't take it much further (unless those documents are really interesting and would enhance our conversation). For instance, if someone where to google me and find my posts here, I would expect them to read at least a handful of my posts. It's a good way to learn who I am and what I stand for.


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AnnaLeigh,379113 wrote :

Absolutely! And I check Linked In.....
LinkedIn is a trustful source.But I would be sensitive with that.
 
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pukeko,379183 wrote :

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Absolutely! And I check Linked In.....


LinkedIn is a trustful source.But I would be sensitive with that.
I check Linked in to see if we are connected to anyone....
 
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AnnaLeigh,379190 wrote :

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AnnaLeigh,379113 wrote :


Absolutely! And I check Linked In.....


LinkedIn is a trustful source.But I would be sensitive with that.


I check Linked in to see if we are connected to anyone....
But if you are logged in, they can see that you saw their profile. Doesn't that bother you?


Also, I would like to somehow Google them, but if their name is Mike and they live in Manhattan, how am I ever going to find them on Google?? No I am not going to ask for their last name, I never give mine. My last name is so strange that if you Google me, my brother and I appear plus my family in XYZ country and a bunch of chemical sites. There is no way, they could find way too much. Even on Facebook my last name is just my initial.


I know you stalkers... therefore I keep it all in private. Who knows maybe I'll be in a commercial of eHaHa one day... HAHAHAHA.. what a joke!
 
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pukeko, wrote :

Please be honest.
I've been googled by a few guys and never heard from them again. I guess they have something against artists and songwriters. I always know when someone's googled me whether they admit it or not. Their language in writing changes, as if they think they know me better or have some preconceived notion about me because they have more information about me that I would have eventually shared anyway. I don't like it when my privacy is invaded like that and I've closed matches for doing this and not telling me they did it. I don't care if I'm googled but it says something about the person not having the balls to ask some straight forward questions about you that are fairly simple like "What do you do for a living?"
 
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Sorry, neardc. You need to access a computer located on Uranus to discover the really good stuff about me.

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I admit I google too, and I check family watchdog to see if they're on there. The one reason I do this is because a few years ago I found 2 people that I grew up with that were on there. It shocked me and I figured if they're on there then anyone could be. So far none of my dates have been on there, thank goodness.
I have never done a background check but I've found out that some of my dates were lying about age, that they had previously been married, and that they have children. I guess when I find this information out it reinforces that I should be googling becausea lot of people keep many things hidden.
I will say that looking someone up is a double edged sword since you then have to decide to cancel the date because you've found out information or you have to pretend you don't know the information you do. Such is technology: A good thing and a bad thing.
 
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I googled my name and I was mann living in two different states that are nowhere near the Northeast whereI as a female live.....ay dios mio!


In other words, googling may not get you the honest return you want.....how about trying some good old-fashioned conversation and instincts?. It has served me quite well duringmy life,


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Conversation and instincts? Absolutely. But when you have two children that you also want to protect, I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to air on the side of caution. I have no problem with someone else googling me, maybe because I have nothing to hide? In some cases, internet dating can be a very scary thing. Is there really anything wrong with wanting to feel that you've taken precautions for your own safety? I don't think so.
 
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I've 'Googled' people before only to confirm that they are who they say they are. But, Google doesn't really provide any information, unless the person has a website, abusiness, has been written about in a news articleor on another website, etc. And if you're like me and you have a common name, then you get pages of websites about their namesakes. I've Googled myself and there are a ton of people with my name all over the world - doctors, lawyers, politicians, humanitarians, etc. It's all very fascinating. But, they're not me!
 
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