The age difference thing - or is it just false presentation?


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Aussie_Devilette is offline Aussie_Devilette Post #1  December 13,2008, 3:36am
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Recently I met a guy who seemed lovely. I quite liked him. Problem: he was too young.


However, he gave me the whole "age doesn't matter" routine including the story of his friend who is married to a woman and the friend is younger than her oldest child and they are so happy. Blah, blah, blah.


Anyway, I agreed in the end (or a moment of weakness) to have a date with this guy. Logistics are a problem for us at the moment. He is working afternoon shift this weekend and I have work commitments next weekend, then it is Christmas, etc, etc, etc.


He invited me to meet him at his place after work tonight. For me, this wasn't really an attractive idea. He didn't have a spare room, I didn't want to really go out tonight (I had little enough sleep LAST night - lol - and it is pouring with rain).


I suggested he come to my place and if he wanted to stay over rather than risk the drink driving thing, the spare room was his.


He declared in no uncertain terms he wasn't driving "all that way" (like a whole 15 minutes max)if he had to sleep in the spare room. I declared in no uncertain terms if that was his agenda, please don't bother coming over.


I sent him a text message saying it was a pity he turned out to be only after sex, as he had SEEMED so genuine up to that point and that "older" does NOT mean "easy target".


Why did I bother? Who knows really - I was just p1ssed off at yet ANOTHER "false presentation".
 
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You dodged a bullett Congrats
 
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The way i see it, it depends on the individual involved. I guess the emotional and mental maturity of the person matters. Sometimes the age may not really matter if the person has grown up in the mind and spirit too.
 
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In the instance you mention above, I think it boils down to him giving a false impression of overall interest. When in fact, it seems like his interest was limited.


It's not an age thing necessarily. It's a people thing. Happens frequently. Par for the course. But, yes, agreed that you dodged a bullet, as thatcould haveturned intoan awkward situation to address 'in the moment'.
 
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