Does having a BIG butt turn men off?


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cuteBut4u is offline cuteBut4u Post #1  December 9,2008, 2:44pm

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I have a full butt but I do run and it is getting smaller and firm. Do men like to date women with big butts?
 
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robv_la is offline robv_la Post #2  December 9,2008, 3:30pm
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It's not so much the size, but the shape. If it's a sagging butt, then yes it's a turn off. Same goes for other parts of the body.


However, cute face goesa long way and I from your pic I think you qualify.


Frankly women are typically more negative about their own appearance than the men are who are looking at them.
 
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Jacquesne is offline Jacquesne Post #3  December 9,2008, 3:44pm
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Short Answer: Yes.


Long Answer: It all depends on proportions. A big butt on someone who is obese and doesn't take care of themselves is usually not attractive. A big butt on someone who is in decent shape and has a natural ratio for their body type is very attractive. The rough estimation for what is generally attractive to men is around a 2:1:3 breast:waist:hips ratio. Note that the hips is the largest number.


It really does depend on your build. I've seen many women with larger posteriors that make me want to drool. And I've seen others who make me think "get off the couch."


You can't treat your body as a bunch of pieces. You have to look at the whole picture. Tila Nguyen (Tila Tequila) of Maxim fame is not someone with a small butt yet that hasn't stopped her from becoming a supermodel. I'm not saying you need to look like a supermodel but the point is that there is nothing inherently unattractive about a larger rear, and it can easily be extremely sexy.


Judging from what I can see from you picture it's obvious you are not overweight. The only way you're butt will turn guys away is if you obsess over it or indicate that you're unhappy with it. Guys, in general, hate it when a woman they're attracted to criticizes their own body. It makes you feel like she's saying you have bad taste, are an idiot, and indicates low self-esteem...none of which makes them want to get closer to you.


If you think it's negative they're likely to stop drooling, notice, and respond to your dislike in order to find common ground. They're in a lose-lose situation...they can't argue with you because that's creating a conflict when they want to create closeness and they can't agree because then they're either saying something that they don't believe and/or insulting you, which they don't want to do either.


Keep up the exercise but I would focus more on the cardiovascular and health aspects of your workout rather than trying to shape your body a certain way. Women who are natural and healthy are very, very hot. Women who do terrible things to themselves in order to look unnatural may have an exotic quality but it's actually a turn off for longer term relationships.


I hope that answers your question without getting me charged with sexual harrassment =).


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Assuming this is a legit post and not yet another troll to start a 'weight matters/doesn't matter' argument - our number one source of discord here - then it only matters to the guy who doesn't want to date you. If he likes your butt as it is, along with the rest of you, then it doesn't matter a whit.


You can't generalize that all men like or dislike any particular body feature, or its size. We're not all the same.
 
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There's also personal preference in there. I wouldn't call it a make or break quality, but a big butt is definitely a turn off for me, but I just prefer the much smaller look and feel. Real men like curves, sure, but that statement does not qualify the nature of said curves...
 
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PY is offline PY Post #6  December 9,2008, 4:18pm

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Depending....
 
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Cyclist_Steve is offline Cyclist_Steve Post #7  December 9,2008, 5:22pm
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beauty is in the eye of the buttholder
 
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Glider_Pilot,374188 wrote :

Assuming this is a legit post and not yet another troll to start a 'weight matters/doesn't matter' argument - our number one source of discord here - then it only matters to the guy who doesn't want to date you. If he likes your butt as it is, along with the rest of you, then it doesn't matter a whit.


You can't generalize that all men like or dislike any particular body feature, or its size. We're not all the same.
You're not??
 
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Cyclist_Steve,374322 wrote :

beauty is in the eye of the buttholder
grooooooaaaaannnnnn.......... (ok, it was funny)
 
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cuteBut4u, wrote :

I have a full butt but I do run and it is getting smaller and firm. Do men like to date women with big butts?
Spite answer: The way you were talking to me yesterday, I'd say your personality was more of a turnoff.



Real answer: It depends. Some people like more junk in the trunk, some like flatter rear ends.



I usually like in the middle, tbh.
 
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