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Admittedly, I laughed out loud. He may have been being honest, but I think it's a horrible thing to tell someone. At least you didn't waste too much time.
- December 7th, 2008, 09:37 pm
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I think you dodged a bulit.
- December 7th, 2008, 09:41 pm
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If it matters to any of you girls I think you are all acceptable to me
- December 7th, 2008, 09:43 pm
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Too bad you couldn't respond by telling him you'll remind of what he did when you meet up in "hell" for his self-righteous. judgementalattitude!


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- December 7th, 2008, 09:46 pm
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It's one thing if a match doesn't meet your criteria - I mean, he has extremely weird, obnoxious criteria, but you know, whatever,he's free to live his life however unhappily he wants to.


But to say that you aren't "suitable"? Yeah, um, good luck buddy. I'm sure women will be lined up around the block to experience your oh, so christian attitude. ICK.
- December 7th, 2008, 09:50 pm
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last12C wrote :

Uhm... I don't believe anyone is BORN Christian :-) Even though I don't agree with him, thebottom line is that there is an incompatability in his mind and he was honest about that, thus saving you both the time and trouble. If you take potshots at him for his beliefs you are being just asjudgemental as you think he is being. Just let it go.
Exactly. Any faith or religion is a choice. It's my personal opinion that thisfellow might think he isliving by Christian principles, but he's not. Seems like an unkind person.


Eventually, you would have closed him out anyway. At least, I hope you would!
- December 7th, 2008, 09:56 pm
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jsbach wrote :

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Uhm... I don't believe anyone is BORN Christian :-) Even though I don't agree with him, thebottom line is that there is an incompatability in his mind and he was honest about that, thus saving you both the time and trouble. If you take potshots at him for his beliefs you are being just asjudgemental as you think he is being. Just let it go.


Exactly. Any faith or religion is a choice. It's my personal opinion that thisfellow might think he isliving by Christian principles, but he's not. Seems like an unkind person.


Eventually, you would have closed him out anyway. At least, I hope you would!
As our little friend would say, Spot on, jsb! :-) If that criteria is what leads him to make his choices in a partner, fine. But he needn't have communicated it in an unkind manner. Perhaps in his mind he thought he was simply being forthright, but I imagine if he'd taken the time to think about it he may have eventually come to the conclusion that itwasa hurtful way to go about it.
- December 7th, 2008, 10:06 pm
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I kid you not. I just got closed out a few hours ago after a couple of OC communications because, as my match told me in his last e-mail to me before he clicky-ed me into oblivion, I'm not "suitable."


Why, you may ask? Because I wasn't born a Christian and I've been divorced, not widowed.


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So if my ex had met an untimely demise, I would have qualified, apparently. Something to think about

You look at it wrong I think. I mean yeah he is gone but then so are many other problems. No heart ache down the line when you invested your emotions to no return. He was giving you a break even if he has no class about it. He at least told you.


Now you are free to find a man who has an open mind, open heart, and wisdom to use them both wisely.You deserve nothing less then the man who can appreciate all you are or will be come.
- December 7th, 2008, 10:17 pm
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I guess those were his preferences - to date a Christian woman and for her to not be divorced. Not a very tactful way of communicating it to you, though.

I suspect that the reason he may not want a divorced woman is because he's following that scripture in Matthew where Jesus says that one shouldn't divorce, except if the partner committed adultery and if anyone marries the divorced person, he too commits adultery. Some people feel very strongly about their religious beliefs.
- December 7th, 2008, 10:25 pm
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I'm sure you've closed matches for what would be a valid reason in your mind, but in their minds, it would be silly.


I don't think he was even that rude about it. He told you that you were not a suitable match. Don't you think and feel the same way about matches you close out? I think you are jumping to conclusions as to why though. It could be for any reason.
- December 7th, 2008, 11:41 pm
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