lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #31  December 8,2008, 4:34pm
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NextOnDeck,372896 wrote :

Hmm... I tend to go for a hand shake, european type kiss on ether cheek upon meeting. Then, if things go well, at the very least, the same. If not, then just the handshake... or sometimes a hug if I think he's a nice guy. However... If I know upon seeing the guy (ie. he's obese and he has said he works out every day) i know I don't want a second date, I may just start with a handshake and possibly end the same way. For me, it all depends on the date.
Me too! Exactly. Is that weird?
 
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First "real" date after the first meeting for coffee, I'll shake her hand while looking in her eye and express my interest in the next date. I won't give the "I just bought a car from you" type handshake.


I don't want to be too forward or force an uncomfortable situation. Maybe I move too slow, but I think it's better than too fast.


FYI I'm mid 40s
 
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I have never initiated anything beyond a hand shake after the first date. Just because I want to remain respectful and don't wanna seem pushy like I'm forcing her into something she's not comfortable with. but thats partially how I was raised. I absolutely love hugs and would prefer a hug as a minimum after each date. but I would have to be getting some VERY VERY clear signs from her that it was ok before I'd do something so forward. I know most of you would never consider a hug being forward but like i said that's how I was raised. I figure if I offer a handshake than it doesn't matter so much what she assumes it means because I can always clear things up later by asking her on a second date or not asking her on a date again.
 
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caleb73,378603 wrote :

I figure if I offer a handshake than it doesn't matter so much what she assumes it means because I can always clear things up later by asking her on a second date or not asking her on a date again.
Interesting caleb73! Good point.


Yes it seems like I have gotten a whole range of responses here, so I decided not to conclude or put much thought about this. I will still let him do what he is confortable with and I will follow along. Besides if he is not that interested I really don't want to make him feel awkward.


Looks like it won't be really a deal breaker, as long as I make sure I send a Thank You for a great time communication e-mail.


Thanks for all your responses!
 
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