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I've never been asked for more pictures. I have 2 hiking (summer and winter),2 clear headshots (one casual and one dolled up), 2 casual half body (one inside, one outside), 2 full body (having fun or goofing off).


I never have asked for more pictures, but I should. Separate cases include 'avatar size' picturesORpictureswith the same clothes on ORnot one picture smiling ORall family pictures (none of just yourself) ORall surfing pictures OR all office pictures OR all holiday party pictures OR allin a boat/plane/car OR all professional pictures OR all dressed up pictures OR scanned pictures (may be old!) and lastly bad colored pictures. One dude told me that his pictures were fine but they appeared horribly on the site (very very dark), seriously??
- December 7th, 2008, 08:24 am
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Many people post older outdated pictures. I've even seen a one that had the verticle axis stretched (the clock in the background was an oval) to make her look thiner.


I think the request for pictures is to see if your profile pictures match the real you.
- December 7th, 2008, 09:31 am
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gr8guy wrote :

I've even seen a one that had the verticle axis stretched (the clock in the background was an oval) to make her look thiner.

OMG, this is too funny!! I think I would be more bothered by the fact that she was stupid enough to think this would work, as opposed to the few extra pounds.
- December 7th, 2008, 10:00 am
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Just yesterday I made it to OC with a match and his first email was a request for a picture of me in a bathing suit! I closed him. Up until then I had never been asked for another photo. I have four posted, three show my full body and all are of good quality (e.g., clear, at least 300X400 pixels, close-up and recent). Whether or not I honored a request for more photos (appropriate requests, that is lol) would depend on my level of interest in the match.
- December 7th, 2008, 10:02 am
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waltercl wrote :

My current strategy is not communicating or meeting anyone so I'm not experiencing any disappointments at the moment




LOL That made me laugh.





I have to say that I understand the photo request. Anyone who has used the online medium for any length of time has been *surprised* when they meet someone. Nobody ever looks just like their photos even if they are not trying to be deceptive. The more photos you can see of a person in different settings, the more accurate read you will have of them.
- December 7th, 2008, 11:33 am
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RTagore wrote :

It gets boring jerking off to the same old pictures day after day. Men need variety. Why can't you provide some more pictures?

hahaha
- December 7th, 2008, 11:54 am
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RTagore wrote :

It gets boring jerking off to the same old pictures day after day. Men need variety. Why can't you provide some more pictures?

hahaha
- December 7th, 2008, 11:56 am
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If a woman's profile has no pictures and I like her profile, I'll ask for a pic or two. But if a pic is posted, I generally don't ask for more. Given that so many people are not truthful about their appearance and often post old photos, I just use it as a factor in deciding how far I want to go with her. In other words, I give her the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
- December 7th, 2008, 12:55 pm
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When I am actually meeting people, I have a simple system:


1. No pic - close


2. I make the the decision on whether to communicate ornot on pics available.


3.If they respond to my first communication, then I actually take the time to read their profile...


This system saves me from reading a seemingly endless amount of the same stuff over and over... I love my family, my friends think I'm funny, and the first thing you notice about me is my smile...


Ladies: Please thinkof something else to write... As for pictures? One close-up, onefull body, none that cut someone out. That is so tacky but I suppose it's better than nothing ifthat is the alternative.
- December 7th, 2008, 02:14 pm
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I would find it odd if I had alot of pics posted anda match wanted more. What more does he need to see? Perhaps he thinks the pics aren't an accurate reflection of you. Maybe he thinks they look outdated. Maybe like others have said he's very visual and needs 50 pics to decide if he likes what he sees. Sounds a little weird to me!
- December 7th, 2008, 02:14 pm
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