Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Dating First-date jitters? Hoping for a second date? Moving on to a full blown relationship? Share your journey and advice here.

Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Elitha Elitha is offline
Elitha's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 1

See profile



I agree about the respect issue. I have a son and taught middle school kids for 9 years. I was also raised by a Quaker and a military officer. I may not have liked what was going on, but showing it in front of adults was out of the question. It's not against the law to hold this generation to those standards, ya know.


At the same time, the girl is a teenager. It was the 4th. She would have fared better hanging out with her friends, and warming up to the new boyfriend on her own terms.


I advise that you talk to your significant other about YOUR values, and how you thought the incident was out of order. If she agrees, great. If not, then move on...you two won't ever see eye to eye.
- November 28th, 2008, 08:02 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#11   Reply With Quote
yeoww yeoww is offline
yeoww's Avatar

yeoww wishes you all the very best!

Veteran

Join Date: Aug 2008

Posts: 1,333

See profile

BikerBeagle wrote :

Frankly, if that had been my daughter, she would've found herself punished (grounded) for her rude and disrespectful behavior. I don't behave that way when she brings her friends over - some of which I don't care for - she doesn't get to treat my friends like that. Plain and simple.
"I don't behave that way when she brings her friends over..."


ROFL! I've wondered how my daughter in particular would react to her mom having a mood meltdown in public...
- November 28th, 2008, 12:37 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#12   Reply With Quote
twee twee is offline
twee's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 2

See profile

Edmondo, wrote :

This happened to me and still makes me wonder.


I am going out with a women with two kids. One is 12 and the other is 15. It was coming up to the fourth of July I asked what are they up to and she said she didn’t have plan and was going to stay home. So I asked how about finding something or do something and she agreed. So I found a town BBQ in the next town. When I showed up to go her oldest daughter didn’t want to go, so I said leave her but my GF insisted she comes. Well when we got to the BBQ the daughter refused to get out of the car. Actually she and her mother had a chat for a half a hour. So after the BBQ we went to a ice cream parlor and the daughter didn’t want ice cream but once again the mother pushed it on her. When we got back to her house the daughter went into her room. Her mother went into the room and talked for a while. A little while later my GF told me I had to leave because her daughter was in a bad.


At this point I am wondering who is the adult in her house.

I think, when you date a single parent and decides to stay in the relationship the kids instantly become your kids and you are responsible to do what any loving parent does this includes: help and support your partner in becomming a good parent, treat the kids with genuine love and respect, provide the kids with guidence. This is a challenging experience but can be most rewarding when both your partner and the kids (who are now your own) looks at you as a family member they do not want to be with out.


Good Luck
- November 28th, 2008, 01:20 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#13   Reply With Quote
twee twee is offline
twee's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 2

See profile

BikerBeagle wrote :

Frankly, if that had been my daughter, she would've found herself punished (grounded) for her rude and disrespectful behavior. I don't behave that way when she brings her friends over - some of which I don't care for - she doesn't get to treat my friends like that. Plain and simple.
I like your "plain and simple" parenting style but have you ever consider to look at the whole thing from that child's point of view? May be the acting out is resulted from confussion and hurt because she is thinking where do I fit in between all this new mess of events and feelings. Why do I no longer have all my mother's time and attention. What the heck is happening?
- November 28th, 2008, 01:31 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#14   Reply With Quote
Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2

Bookmarks

« My my my, how our standards change when we're online | Array | Your Safety on a First Date »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“It's a well-known fact that you can tell what a guy is like in bed by watching the way he eat (And no, I ain't kiddin') *chomp chomp *grub* *gulp* I'm curious now ” – PY_2

Join the “Proper Etiquette” discussion

“Hello all, I'm working tonight on the work I should have done yesterday but didn't finish. Hoping you will all keep me entertained while I'm trying not to think about how sad it is to spend ... ” – singinggirl

Join the “Saturday Night Plans...” discussion

“And Meri is a manager. This is more aligned with my reality. Responding as well to your prior post, I actually don't know the rate applicable to my father's era, but we will assume it is before ... ” – meri75

Join the “Five Myths of Divorce, CS, and Custody in the USA” discussion

“Just noting that the OP posted this thread two months ago and hasn't posted again since (even to respond to the several pages of responses from September). ” – neardc

Join the “He wouldn't Commit so I Left; Now I think I made a Mistake” discussion

“I agree with Melman - I don't think that you should worry about it until after you have met them both. You are not dating anyone yet, and you don't even know if you will meet either of them in real ... ” – lionsfan

Join the “Ethical Considerations In Dating Multiple People” discussion

“Bagg + age = Baggage. See what you did there? If we want a thread to stop all the whining about tall men it should be called Shhh + height = ? If we want a thread to stop all the inane ... ” – AutumnJoy

Join the “Hybrid thread: 'baggage' and 'age'” discussion

“ She's still around, saw something on TV about her within the last couple of months. Sad. ” – Lilycat

Join the “8 Surgeries Before Love Comes” discussion

“Really, it doesn't matter one little bit whether or not you're lying or telling the truth. All that matters is whether they ~think~ you're telling the truth. "I never slept with her!" See? It ... ” – trixie1868

Join the “The Truth and Nothing but the Truth” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:46 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0