I am 40 and I live at home with my mom, would you date me?

Only if it were an elderly parent who needed to move back in with you so you could help take care of her. If YOU'RE dependent on HER, then no - no way I'd date you. But I understand adults having the responsibility of taking care of elderly parents. If you're responsible for her, then ok.


It sounds like you're just sharing expenses to save money though. And in that case, a lot of other things would matter. Is it because you or she travels a lot & it's not really like having a roomie every night? Or if there were minor kids that she takes care of because your job requires you to be gone a lot -- I mean, there are a lot of family situations where it makes sense.


However, in general, a 40 year old guy who still lives with his mom is usually still under his mother's thumb. In that situation, no way I'd date you.


A funny story on this subject though -- I went out several times with a guy who was about 54 before heading to his house one night at the end of the date (to see his new hot tub). He did not tell me that his elderly mother lived with him. After we got there, he took me into his mother's room to meet her. She was a spry little thing, but perhaps not all there mentally. The first thing she said to me was wow, nice boobs, are they real?


So guys - you need to be careful about what your elderly mom might say to your dates .....there are other ways this might not work to your advantage....

That comment smacks of "I haven't internalized yet that budgeting, prioritizing, and responsibility are part of being an adult."



At the age of 40, this is part of your long-range plans? So that potentially, you could be dead before they finish college, not to mention the increase in congenital disorders (Autism, etc) linked to advanced paternal age?


The self-centeredness and lack of maturity displayed, not the living arrangements, are what make you undate-able.

Hy everyone,


I live in a major metro area with my mom. It's very expensive to move out on my own. I am a really nice guy, butI am finding it very difficult to maintaina relationship once they figure out that I live eith my mom. So, would you have any apprehension to dating a guy who lives at home with his mom?

I have always lived at home. When I was in my 20s, I still have friends who lived at home too. But, now all of my old friends are married... some with kids. Now at 40, it starting to become an issue.


I have traveled overseas, but when I was in my 20s and early 30s. It's been some time. I did graduate college 15 years ago. I do have a steady, full-time office job.


I have a great relationship with my mother. She gives me my space, she has dinner ready for me when I get home. She hosts parties for my friends sometimes. Living at home has never been an issue for me, but again, dating has been very difficult. I'd love to move out, but I don't know if I could.

Has everyone lost their minds. I am sorry, but at 40, if you mother has no medical need for you presence, then grow up and stop making excuses. It is disfunctional for a grown 40 year old man to live with his mother even if she wants you to. if you feel the need to be close then visit her everyday, but if find a female who considers this to ok, then run like the dickens, because she is equally as disfunctional. My god man! Will you stuff a lolipop in her mouth when if she's a screamer? Or does mommy let you have sleepovers?

Well, yeah, I know it's hurting my chances at dating. I don't really meet any women my age. If I do meet a girl, she's at least 10 years younger than me. Some of them haven't had much of an issue in the beginning when we begin dating, but then in the end - it does become an issue.


I've never been the best at saving money. I don't share expenses with my mother and her husband. She's remarried and he lives with us too. The house that we live in is paid for. My only expenses are my car payment, insurance, gas and my cell phone. Even though I don't have many expenses, I still can't seem to seem to keep enough money in my savings account. I do spend a lot of money eating out which is something I have tried to cut back on. Dating is not cheap and I go on a lot of dates. Being the guy, I almost always have to pay for dinner and drinks.


I live in a city where a small 1 bedroom apartment can cost $1,500 a month. Technically, I could make it work somehow, but I would have to budget. I don't think I would have enough money to live my current lifestyle. I like to eat a nice places, go out for drinks, buy myself nice things. I'm not going to lie - living with mom has been convenient.


I'll admit that I've never seriously looked into moving out. It's just something that I think about because I know it's probably not the most normal thing. Although, my younger brother who's 37 lives at home too - with my dad. I'm not actually sure if he's ever considered moving out. I don't think he's ever been serious about a woman enough to consider getting his own place.


My last real, serious relationship was in the late 90s and it's getting a little lonely now. I want to find a good woman who will accept me for who I am. A woman whois close to my age because these young girls don't take me seriously. I want to one day be married and have kids. But, to be completely honest, I can't see myself moving out before I get married. I'd like to be able to save money to buy a house for my future wife. I guess she would have to accept that I live with my mother and her husband. But, I gather from most of you, that it's not realistic.

It isn't dysfunctional to live with your mother at 40! It is very much the norm in some cultures. In Europe, many men would live with their families until they are married, no matter what their age. And grandparents would live in thesame house, too. It makes sense, it is cost effective and better for the environment thanmaintaining separate houses.

Hy everyone,


I live in a major metro area with my mom. It's very expensive to move out on my own. I am a really nice guy, butI am finding it very difficult to maintaina relationship once they figure out that I live eith my mom. So, would you have any apprehension to dating a guy who lives at home with his mom?