I'm in a slightly similar boat:


I'm 40 years old, have a decent-paying job, own my own car (which I paid for entirely by myself), I've never used drugs, never got into alcohol (not even beer or wine), I'm smart (book and common sense), witty, romantic, I'm spiritually, morally,and emotionally well-balanced, and while I don't consider myself to be next month's GQ cover model, I don't think of myself as a total dog. I've been single all my life and still have my factory-installed virginity. I'm 6'3" tall and weigh 220, so I'm about 20lbs over what I'd like to be.


Who shows interest in me? Gay men, African-American women, women who are 10+ years older or younger, and 16-year old girls - and I'm not interested in any of them. You older guys that want a 20-year oldplaything are welcome to them - I find them intellectually and emotionally inferior.


I'm not a socialite. I don't do bars or volunteer work or any of that. I don't "hang out" because all the people I know and would hang out with are drinking when they do it and have a mate with them. I'm a musician and I play video games because that's all there is to do by yourself that is even remotely fun. I cannot find enjoyment in doing anything else (and yes, I've tried)because whatever there is to do - go to a movie, take a trip, go anywhere besides grocery shopping, etc - would only be fun if there was someone to share it with.


Yet no one (aside from the aforementioned "unwanted") seems to want a guy who's reliable. Do women want some guy they can sit around and complain about like their girlfriends do? Should I be a jerk to everyone instead of treating everyone with equal respect? Should I develop a drinking or drug problem? Should I have sex with anything that breathes? Should I lower my standards and accept the unacceptable? None of that's likely to happen.





Now, to address the opening post, personally I wouldn't go for a woman with kids;


When a man and woman enter into a relationship, ideally, the man puts the woman first and the woman puts the man first. They are on equal footing. It's a partnership. When they have a child, they both put the child first.


In a relationship where one has a child and the other does not, the parent will always put the child first. That is, of course, the way it should be. However, this results in the other person being upside down in the order of priorities: a man would put the woman first and the child second, since he has no "material investment" in the child - it's not his child - ,but the woman puts the child first, with the man being second. The child is always "her child", and the man is always perceived as "not the father".


This also invites trouble the man didn't want from the ex-husband, especially if he is allowed visitation with the child. If the ex is a total nutjob, then it's just drama everywhere.


Of course that's just my interpretation of it. I'm sure some guys want the Brady Bunch life.

I'll have to disagree here: no one makes all the "right" decisions in life. People make mistakes. It's part of living. While some of us learn by watching others make the mistakes, we have to have people that are making the mistakes to learn from.


And there's nothing wrong with stating your education level. Some of us do not want to associate with people who are below our level of education AND comprehension.


I've met quite a few women in my 40 years that were attractive on the outside but complete morons. If all you're after is sex, that's fine, but quite frankly I can't stand working with those people for 12 hours a day much less contemplatebeing in a relationship with them. I'd rather have my fingernails ripped out than be involved with an idiot.


SO be proud of your education. It's just one more thing that makes it "their loss".

You do realize that you have just offended a number of African American women on this forum, who are probably way more educated, and classy than you? Perhaps in your mind, they are sub-human, so it really does not matter.


However, I'm sure none of them would ever post in an open forum that they are approached by someone who is a blue collar worker. Please show those African American women who you so clearly despise, that you have at least the same level of good manners as they.