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Just curious - I have been single for 7 years after a 11 year marriage that gave me 4 wonderful kids, I havemy kids (ages 8-15) full time.Iam fortunate to have the bestsupport system and am able to date, take weekend trips, and pretty much anything a part time parent can do - I just have 100% custody. Most men I meettend to run for the hills as soon as they hear about my family situation.My kids are well behaved, smart,independant, andeveryoneloves them. It has been suggested that I take a break from dating until my kids are older - however, I really do not want to spent the next 7 years also also.


I'm 40, in great shape, and ready to live life for all its worth.Is dating with 4 kids at home a reality for me or should I throw in the towel for now?


- November 22nd, 2008, 03:20 pm
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Don't throw in the towel. It will be a littel daunting for some men; but the right one is out there. It's not like you have 4 kids all under the age of 8. And even then, I wouldn't give up.
- November 22nd, 2008, 05:10 pm
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I agree - don't throw in the towel. If someone is put off by your kids - then they are not the right match for you. Kids don't stop being your kids at 18. They just bring forward different challenges. So waiting until they are "grown" won't necessarily resolve any issues.
- November 22nd, 2008, 05:22 pm
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Naw, don't give up, ds. You are FABULOUS! And only an equally fabulous man (and i know they exist) will do. i knew a guy who has 4 kids marry his high-school sweetheart after both their marriages fell apart and they met up again, and she has 4 kids, and they're the happiest bunch On Earth .


Stay the course, hon.
- November 22nd, 2008, 05:23 pm
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Dating and weekend trips are one thing. But if there comes a time when you get serious and tie the knot with someone you will undoubtedly have them together full time. That is what makes some men run like hell. It will be hard to find someone to take on 2 kids, much less 4. but it can be done.
- November 22nd, 2008, 05:27 pm
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There are lots of guys out there with the maturity needed to take on the responsibility of 4 kids not his own. I wouldn't throw in the towel, just realize that those running for the hills don't have what it takes to be with you.
- November 22nd, 2008, 06:06 pm
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Thanks guys - I haven't had much luck lately but i'm sure the right one is out there.EHand other online sites are better than waiting for someone to just magically appear on my front doorstep.
- November 22nd, 2008, 06:17 pm
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Just remember, EH and other online dating sites are just tools that should be used in conjunction with getting out in the real world and meeting people. You will have better luck if you don't put all of your eggs in one proverbial basket.
- November 22nd, 2008, 06:31 pm
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I don't date people with kids...but hang in there, you'll eventually find someone.
- November 22nd, 2008, 08:41 pm
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ds1968, wrote :

Just curious - I have been single for 7 years after a 11 year marriage that gave me 4 wonderful kids, I havemy kids (ages 8-15) full time.Iam fortunate to have the bestsupport system and am able to date, take weekend trips, and pretty much anything a part time parent can do - I just have 100% custody. Most men I meettend to run for the hills as soon as they hear about my family situation.My kids are well behaved, smart,independant, andeveryoneloves them. It has been suggested that I take a break from dating until my kids are older - however, I really do not want to spent the next 7 years also also.


I'm 40, in great shape, and ready to live life for all its worth.Is dating with 4 kids at home a reality for me or should I throw in the towel for now?

There is something I have learned over the past yr is to not give up ... on anything especially your dreams. I too have been divorced and have three kids (ages 5-8) . God has blessed me with them and only a man that can see what a blessing they are will value you even more. There is somone out there for you ... NEVER GIVE UP .


- November 22nd, 2008, 08:57 pm
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